You will learn to live without these toxic people and you will realize that life is much better without them in it. It's only a matter of time.
'Blood is thicker than water.' We've all heard this, haven't we? For most of our lives, we've put up with people who have been nothing but mean and rude to us, only because they've been a part of our life for way too long. This could be a friend or family. While it's easier to let go of a friend, it's so much harder to do the same with a family member. Toxicity and the people who carry it around come in all forms and relations, and the sooner we realize and dump their toxic ass, the better it is for us, both physically and mentally. Sure, it can be hard to let go of someone you've known for a long time.
You wonder how you can tell them you're done with them without seeming rude or hurting their feelings; it's a constant dilemma. But the one thing that you've forgotten seems to be the fact that you owe them nothing at all. Seriously, you don't even owe them an explanation as to why you think that a particular relationship is toxic and a complete waste of your time. Toxic people are predators. They target people who are gullible, this makes it easier for them to mold and convince them into their preferences. They find ways to take advantage of you and how! You know, you could be the most caring and kind person, but someone toxic will tear you apart before you even know it.
You need to realize that you deserve love and kindness. If you think you're not being treated the way you deserve to be, tell them. Toxic people can be extremely destructive and the sooner you get them out of your life, the better it is for you, or else they'll suck the happiness out of you, like leeches. They only think of themselves and their benefits and will not pay heed to how many people get hurt on their way to achieve things they want. While it's comparatively easier to bid adieu to friends, this can get quite tricky when it comes to family. You think that you'll have to see them again at some family gathering and you don't want people to talk about this.
See, the thing is, you can put up with this abuse from your family member for your whole life and let your mental health bear the brunt of it, or you can walk away from them, and help yourself from falling down a rabbit hole with no end in sight. What's a few nosy relatives compared to your mental health. Prioritize yourself. Tell yourself that you're worth it and that you don't deserve to be treated this way. The minute you let that toxic person in your life know that you're onto their game, they will retract their tentacles, because they know it's a lost cause. But, make sure you don't give them a chance to tighten their tentacles after this.
You can let it go, you can grow. You will learn to live without these toxic people and you will realize that life is much better without them in it. It's only a matter of time. You need to realize that you deserve to be happy. It's okay to lose a few people in your life, be it your friends or your family, because better things do come for those who wait. You're no exception because you're a beautiful soul who deserves to be surrounded by people who love you, and most importantly, who help you grow. Because, unless you grow, you cannot flourish. Remember, life is too short to let someone else control the reins of your dreams and hopes.