She even suffered ectopic pregnancies which meant she had to have her tubes taken out, but finally, after 10 years of trying, they're parents to a beautiful baby boy!
It's never easy to lose a baby, and this 40-year-old woman had 10 miscarriages before she finally gave birth. Jen Bickel from Cardiff is said to have become pregnant six times naturally and four through IVF unsuccessfully, even though she's been trying for over a decade. During her miscarriages, she endured several ectopic pregnancies that damaged her fallopian tubes and they had to be taken out. Jen, who is married to Andrew, realized she would never be able to get pregnant naturally. She had no other option but to have a frozen embryo implanted into her womb. Jen was pregnant, for the eleventh time, but she and Andrew decided not to get their hopes up and they did not even shop for baby clothes until a few weeks before their due date, reports Daily Mail. Despite all odds, Jen and Andrew became parents to a beautiful baby boy named Bobi William Bickel, who was born via C-section on February 9 and weighed 6lb 8oz.
Speaking of her difficult road to motherhood, Jen Bickel said: "There have been so many low points in my journey to becoming a mother, it's tricky to pick out the lowest. As newlyweds, we never dreamed that having a baby would prove so testing. Back then, we were both fit and healthy 29-year-olds." Jen first got pregnant in 2007, and had a miscarriage six weeks later, when she did not even know she was pregnant. "I was upset but not too devastated; we had time on our sides after all. But it was 18 months before I fell pregnant again and this time I miscarried at 11 weeks," she said. Jen and Andrew were completely heartbroken by the loss and they were sad when they saw their friends around them conceive, but they were also happy for them, so there were a lot of mixed emotions the couple shared amidst themselves.
"Many of our friends were starting families and although we were happy for them, it made our losses all the more acute. Personally, I couldn't help but blame myself. Why was my body failing me? What had I done?" asked Jen. Unfortunately, in 2009, Jen miscarried again. She got to know she miscarried when she went for an early scan and the doctors broke the shocking news that the baby showed no signs of a heartbeat. " A few months later, we tried again, this time receiving a positive pregnancy test - but again a fetus with no heartbeat. By this stage, we were desperate. Unsure of how to proceed, we paid out £2,000 for private tests, had acupuncture and bought supplements - yet nothing helped. Still, we could not give up, so we had no option but to steel our nerves and keep trying," said Jen.
Being heartbroken and desperate, the couple turned to IVF in 2010 and created ten embryos in their first round. Sadly, it did not impregnate Jen. Again, in 2014, Jen and Andrew planted two embryos. 'But in October, while out for my birthday, I felt a terrible pain in my side, which turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy. This was the end of the road of IVF. We had no frozen embryos left and no more money for treatment," she added. The couple revealed they spent nearly $6,500 for every round of IVF they underwent. But fate wanted to give them another chance. "Amazingly, we were then thrown a lifeline when the IVF clinic gave us a free round after nurses voted us the most deserving couple. We implanted two embryos which failed but froze a further three," she said. Jen then revealed she suffered another two ectopic pregnancies, which meant her tubes had to be taken out.
It wasn't easy to know she would never be able to conceive naturally again. "I was heartbroken, knowing I would never conceive naturally. In total, over the past decade, I had fallen pregnant ten times - six times naturally and four times through IVF - and we couldn't take anymore," she said. But they refused to lose hope despite everything they've been together. "All we had were the frozen embryos - our last hope - and we were keeping everything crossed," she said. "It took months before the lining of my womb was considered thick enough to try. But once it was, we implanted one embryo and after another agonizing two-week wait, received a positive pregnancy test. I lay on the bed holding Andrew's hand, filled with dread. But there was something different this time - a tiny heartbeat, something we had never seen before. We were ecstatic," she said.
"Still, though, even when I went through morning sickness and learned we were having a boy, Andrew found it hard to believe. He was incredibly supportive, but he refused to shop for baby things or decorate the nursery until the very last weeks before my due date," she added. Jen was induced to make sure her placenta did not fail during childbirth. "But, after hours of contractions, doctors realized the baby's heartbeat was dropping as the cord was wrapped around his neck," she said.
"Everyone knew how high the stakes were - this could not go wrong - so I had a Caesarean, and in the early hours of 9 February, our miracle baby arrived weighing 6lb 8oz. Bobi William Bickel is now six weeks old and I do not care if he cries all day or wants to feed all night; I have everything I ever wanted," she said, as the couple is now embracing parenthood. For now, they're happy, but they're not ruling out the option of having more kids in the future.
"As for us, we still have two embryos in the freezer and I'm sure at some point we will try and implant them. If they work, so be it. If not, we have our beautiful boy, and after more than a decade of heartbreak, we could not be more grateful. Struggling to conceive is incredibly hard - physically, mentally and emotionally. Andrew and I were always each other's rock but we would advise people to seek support," she concluded while adding that those who have been facing troubles with conceiving should seek support.