If a dog can resist the urge to chomp up his favorite meal just because he was told not to, can't adults understand that no means no?
Being a woman in this day and age is a tough ask. The prevailing patriarchy suppresses us, blames us and prevents us from spreading our wings. Slowly, but surely, times are changing. More and more women are coming forward to challenge the norm. Tennessee pastry chef Bree Wiseman shared an adorable picture of her pupper, with a very powerful message. It is one that tells people that it is high time to stop victim-shaming. Every time a woman is raped, there are thousands of people who blame her. Be it for her choice of attire or for her body language.
Bree uploaded a picture of her dog sitting obediently next to his favorite food to give people a reality check. She wrote a short and crisp message on Facebook: "To the people that say women get raped due to the way they are dressed. This is my dog. His favorite food is steak. He is eye level with my plate. He won't get any closer because I told him no. If a dog is better behaved than you are, you need to reevaluate your life. Feel free to share, my dog is adorable."
The post was put up a while ago, and has been shared about 326K times and has racked up over 13K comments, with about 206k people reacting to it. Bree told HuffPost that she felt the need to share such an analogy because of her own experience with sexual assault. She said that more often than not these perpetrators’ actions are excused because people blame the victim.
“If a 4-year-old pit bull understands the word 'no,' even though he is looking at something he wants so bad he is literally drooling, then adults should understand 'no,' no matter how the other adult is dressed. Appearances shouldn’t make any difference in sexual assault cases,” she said, adding, ”How is it that a simple-minded animal has the ability to understand better than a large part of the adult population?”
Bree also said that she just wants people to realize just how treacherous victim-shaming can be, and she hopes posts like hers help raise awareness. “The only person to blame in a rape offense is the rapist," she said. "It was their decision to rape. People shouldn’t have to worry about what they chose to wear for fear of rape. I want people to see that this is a problem, and to stand together against victim-shaming.”