The couple made the "difficult" decision to rehome him because there were a lot more special needs that they weren't aware of.
It takes a lot of time and effort to bring a baby up and can be even more so if it's a child with a disability. YouTuber Myka Stauffer and her husband James adopted a baby from China nearly three years ago, but at the time, they weren't aware of what it would take to look after the little one who has autism. Now, PEOPLE reports that Myka and James have decided to "rehome" their son Huxley. "Once Huxley came home, there was a lot more special needs that we weren't aware of, and that we were not told," James said in a video that was shared on Myka Stauffer's YouTube channel on Tuesday.
"For us, it's been really hard hearing from the medical professionals, a lot of their feedback, and things that have been upsetting," he continued. "We've never wanted to be in this position. And we've been trying to get his needs met and help him out as much as possible... We truly love him." Stauffer tearfully added, "There's not an ounce of our body that doesn't love Huxley with all of our being. There wasn't a minute that I didn't try our hardest and I think what Jim is trying to say is that after multiple assessments, after multiple evaluations, numerous medical professionals have felt that he needed a different fit and that his medical needs, he needed more."
She then spoke about how it made her feel as a mother. "Do I feel like a failure as a mom? Like, 500 percent," Stauffer said. She also mentioned that Huxley was now living with a "new mommy" in his "forever home." "The last couple months have been like the hardest thing I could have ever imagined to going to choosing to do because ultimately, after pouring our guts and our heart into this little boy," she said. "He is thriving, he is happy, he is doing really well, and his new mommy has medical professional training, and it is a very good fit." The couple then told their followers that they wouldn't delve into any more details and requested her fans to respect their privacy.
Initially, Stauffer Twitter description said she was a mum-of-five but now it's been changed to the mother of four kids. Her decision to rehome Huxley comes as a surprise to many because last September, she posted a video celebrating two years since Huxley's adoption. She even wrote that he'd been showing signs of improvement. We have learned since my last update that he has autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and because of that, we have him in aba therapy. He is doing so well and I am so excited to see the huge steps forward he makes in his third year after being adopted from China :) Time has flown by even through the good times and the really hard ones.
She even wrote about adoption and how it's not easy but the greatest thing to do is to be the best parents "humanly possible." Adoption isn't easy and I don't want anyone to think it ever will be. Adopted children are beautiful in so many ways and with everything they go through its hard to imagine the pain and hardships they have endured... The only thing as a parent you can do is to shower them with love, open your arms, and be the best mom and dad humanly possible! People were quick to express their outrage at the decision the Stauffers made. Also, it doesn't come as a surprise that the hashtag #CancelMykaStauffer was trending on social media as well.
One Instagram user sweetsam86 commented under Stauffer's post: You’re people? But you threw one way like a piece of trash! You re-homed him like he was a puppy you didn’t want and sent him back to the pound. What happens if that was your biological child?!?! He ruined the perfect image you had in your head about a perfect family. Another user nananananaylor added: One day these kids will grow up and realize how evil their parents are. They’ll wonder why they weren’t blessed enough to keep their brother just because he had autism! Some even went to the extent of saying that her family meant nothing to her, but she used them for "social media points" and others said they wouldn't use parenting advice from someone who abandons their child.
Hey @MykaStauffer I chose NOT to have children because I knew I could not give them the time/attention they deserve. This is what a normal human does. They dont adopt, say they cant imagine their world w/out them and then dump them! You are horrible! #CancelMykaStauffer— DWGirl67 (@dwgirl67) May 28, 2020
Do you know a lot of things don’t bother me but I actually had trouble sleeping last night because I don’t understand how you can give up your child because it got hard. But it was OK for you to make money off him #stauffersaintshit #cancelmykastauffer #justiceforhuxley— Binks (@thelifeofbinks) May 28, 2020
I didn’t know who @MykaStauffer was till now, but finding out she adopted a kid for views, let the boy get attached to them believing their his family only to ‘rehome’ him as if he was a pet, I fully support #cancelmykastauffer— Adrian Chazacky (@ac7_adrian) May 28, 2020
This is NOT what a parent does. He inconvenienced you, you dropped him like a dog. Every penny that you made off of Huxley, donate to the new family! You just caused GREAT trauma to a little boy. You “re-home” a pet, NOT a child! Entitled! Selfish! Inhumane! #cancelmykastauffer— Maribee (@Maribee1921) May 28, 2020