"I was not okay for a long time after he died, and one of the things that I did to comfort myself was to continue wearing the engagement ring he gave me. It was my reminder that part of him was still there with me, and will always be."
It is never easy to lose someone you love, especially if they were taken away from you unfairly. Life sure does work in mysterious ways and there's always light at the end of the tunnel. As hard as things may seem now, there is hope that it may get better someday. Recently, a woman in a dilemma took to Reddit to share a story close to her heart. She wrote that she's now engaged, but she lost the love of her life to an accident. They were engaged and about to get married, but he passed away. Life after his death would have surely been hard for her. However, time passed and she found someone else, but now there's an issue. She still holds onto a part of her late fiancé, but she worries that might bother her current fiancé.
She wrote: "I was with my late fiancé Blake for four years until he passed away from an accident a few months before we were supposed to get married. He was the light of my life - I was not okay for a long time after he died, and one of the things that I did to comfort myself was to continue wearing the engagement ring he gave me. It was my reminder that part of him was still there with me, and will always be."
Either time heals the pain, or we learn to live with it. She met someone else a few years later, and they seemed to have a connection. "A few years later I met my current fiancé Zach. We’ve been together for two years now, I am very happy with him and had no qualms about saying yes when he proposed. I used to wear Blake’s engagement ring on my right ring finger. Zach and I talked about it when we started getting serious, and he said he was okay with me still wearing Blake’s ring because he knew how important Blake’s memory is to me."
She decided to keep the ring and wear it. "When Zach and I got engaged, I moved Blake’s ring to the middle finger of my right hand while Zach’s ring is now on my ring finger." In most cases, the family is the one that's creating all the problems, and in this case, it seems to be Zach's sister. It looks like she approached the woman to add fuel to fire about the whole ring issue. "Recently Zach’s sister Anna talked to me and asked if I planned on continuing to wear my engagement ring with Blake."
The woman was taken aback by Anna's question that came out of the blue. "I was surprised but told her yes and asked why she thought to ask. She said she just thinks it’s awkward that I was still wearing another man’s ring now that I’m engaged to her brother, and have I considered how weird it would be if I am wearing Blake’s ring during my wedding with Zach. She also said that Zach had to spend a lot of time thinking about how he was going to propose to me so it wouldn’t be awkward because he knew that Blake’s ring would already be on my finger when he gives me his ring."
It feels like Anna overstepped her boundaries to make the woman feel insecure. "Honestly, I would still like to wear Blake’s ring because it’s important to me and gives me comfort. But I understand how some people would think it’s weird or awkward, and I accept that maybe my feelings about Blake are clouding my judgment and I am being unfair to Zach." It's never easy getting over someone who meant the world to you, and if Zach is fine with it, it shouldn't really be a problem to anyone else, should it?