"The results came back saying we are actually first cousins on the paternal side," confessed the woman. "This news unsettles me and has left my husband's world in tatters."
More than 15% of the American population have had their DNA tested by services like 23andMe and AncestryDNA, and that number is expected to grow substantially in the next few years. But can DNA tests really reveal the nuanced information about ancestry and health that many of us seek? Well, let's take the case of this woman (who prefers to be unnamed and anonymous) who was happily married to her husband. One DNA test later and what was once a glorious relationship and now turned into an uncertain conflict.
Mirror Online reported that this woman had purchased a DNA test kit from Ancestry DNA and gifted it to her husband on his birthday. Unfortunately for them, they were shocked to discover that they were in fact first cousins by ancestral heritage. She sent a very emotional letter to Slate.com's Dear Prudence podcast in which she detailed the after-effects of discovering this devastating fact. Podcast host Daniel Mallory Ortberg read the letter aloud on the show and even had guest Connor Goldsmith, a literary agent to discuss the incident with.
My first reaction to this was, "eeeee..." Second is, that's a bummer for them and a decision that no one else should weigh in on but them.— Anewera (@parktweeets) September 7, 2019
Hell 2 Da Naw: A woman recently brought her husband a DNA Test for his birthday so he could learn his heritage. NICE! Come to find out, his heritage includes HER! They Found Out They Were First COUSINS!!! She says it's really hurt their Marriage and Blames the DNA Test? pic.twitter.com/f4dCSscq0w— Kenny Smoov (@kennysmoov) September 5, 2019
"The results came back saying we are actually first cousins on the paternal side. This news unsettles me and has left my husband's world in tatters," wrote the woman. The couple also has a 2-year-old son from their marriage. The woman said that this shocking discovery is going to come as a big blow not only to them but also their in-laws.
"His parents have been married for 30 years and my husband has always held his mother close to sainthood. He will not talk about this to me, we are sleeping in separate rooms and it is starting to affect our son," wrote the anonymous woman.
All human beings are brothers and sisters through Adam and Eve..... 🤔— Noel Lakshman (@NoelLakshman) September 4, 2019
Though the woman did reveal via the letter that she and her husband had indeed grown up in the same town, she had no idea that they were actually related by blood. As she struggles to deal with the truth, she wrote that upon finding out this fact, she immediately went through photos and albums of both their childhoods to find some clues.
She also went on to say that the truth would affect other members of their family as it meant someone had been unfaithful in their marriage. "This secret is poisoning my marriage and I am terrified it will blow up the rest of our family...My-father-in-law likes to rhapsodize how he married the first girl he ever kissed, this is going to kill him," wrote the woman.
That’s what I was confused about. When she was saying he says his mum, is a saint 🤔— Khloe2910 (@klokeen1) September 4, 2019
The woman concluded her letter by sharing that she is even unable to confide in her mother and sisters about this. The podcast hosts, on the other hand, didn't blow up the incident as something crazy or bizarre as they said that they knew other people who've found themselves in similar situations.
They added that the couple should maybe try attending therapy in order to deal with this. They ended their podcast on a light and humorous note saying that "hopefully this tale will put at least one listener off buying a DNA test in the future, as it never ends well"
First clue should’ve been everyone sitting on the same side of the aisle at the wedding TBH. https://t.co/6kt4Er0D1R— 🐙🛐Will Gervais🛐🐙 (@wgervais) September 4, 2019