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Widow With Down Syndrome Talks About Life After Losing Her Husband She Was Married To For 25 Yrs

Widow With Down Syndrome Talks About Life After Losing Her Husband She Was Married To For 25 Yrs

Even though they had to face a lot of obstacles, Kris and Paul proved to the world that their love is real and their happiness lies in each other.

Death does people apart and leaves behind many fond memories. Kris Scharoun-DeForge met Paul Scharoun-DeForge in 1988. After a five-year courtship, the two of them got married. Sure, that's what love's all about, but do you know what made them special? Well, they're the first documented Down Syndrome couple to tie the knot.



 

In April 2019, Paul passed away at 56 after a prolonged battle with early-onset Alzheimer's disease that left Kris, 59, widowed. She recently opened up about the incredible bond that they shared and how they supported each other unconditionally during the time they were married.  Friends and family of Kris and Paul gathered around New York's Adirondack Mountains to pay their respects, reports CBS News



 

"He got me laughing and everything. He was the one for me," Kris said. When they met, back in 1988, it was Kris who took the first step. "I proposed to him," Kris said. "I whispered in his ear, 'Would you marry me?' And he looked up at me with this big beautiful smile and he shook his head 'Yes!' And that's when I knew." However, there was a lot more to it than just the 'yes', as Kris's sister Susan Scharoun revealed. 



 

There were marriage classes, counseling sessions, and they also had to deal with people who seemed to find faults. "Yea, there really was quite a bit of resistance. There was a feeling that it was like children getting married versus two very capable adults," Susan said. While this was the situation back then, individuals suffering from Down Syndrome find it difficult to find acceptance.  



 

There are people who have questioned Kris and Paul's love but even after so many years, it's safe to say that their love went strong. Though Paul is no more, Krish cherishes the love they had and as she scattered half of his ashes, she's saved the remaining half so that when the time comes for her to depart, and it'll be mixed with hers one day and buried together. "You were the best husband any wife could ever have," Susan said.



 

"What I hope is that other families will entertain this, you know, other people will recognize the importance of this kind of intimate love," Susan said. "People like us need to have a chance," Kris said. "A chance to find the man of your dreams, like I did." Back when Paul passed away, Kris was asked if she could ever be happy again, and to that, she replied, "I just lost the man that I love, but I'm going to try." As the famous saying goes, Kris, it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. 



 

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