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Watch Out For These 7 Mind Games Narcissists Play In A Relationship!

Watch Out For These 7 Mind Games Narcissists Play In A Relationship!

Narcissists do things only for themselves and not care much about others. Before getting into a relationship with them, best be prepared with a few of their favorite games.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be a lot of work. It is hard to get them to care about anything but themselves and even when they do, the question then is for how long? When narcissists get into a relationship, it's hard to get them to fully commit to it. They often play games with people's hearts and this is not only because they care only about themselves but also because of their insecurities that they are trying to hide. Everyone has insecurities and we all have different ways in which we deal with them. Narcissists, however, deal with their insecurities in ways which tend to hurt others. They pull away from the relationship and their partner and block out their feelings, so they aren't affected by it at all. There are ways to turn things around while dating a narcissist but if it is getting too much to handle then it is best you pull away too. Your well-being is more important than anything else.

Here are a few games you should read out for while dating a narcissist.

1. Being hard to reach or Ghosting

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Narcissists often play hard to get once they know that you are interested in them. They make the effort to get you interested in them at first and then start to pull away when they feel like things are getting too serious. They don't like being vulnerable or dealing with emotions a lot. This is when they start to shut those feelings out and eventually even the person. They might never call or text first and you always have to make the effort. They instead might just focus on moving on with their life and get busy with work or start to flirt around with other people. One of the worst and most annoying things that they can do is ghost somebody. They suddenly disappear out of your life without any warning what so ever. This is when they aren't interested anymore or feel like letting you in is too much for them to handle.

2. Lying and making fake promises

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In a relationship, they always try to get what they want. They do what is best for them and not for anyone else and will do anything to achieve that. For example, if all they want to do is get you to stop talking about the relationship and how you feel insecure, they will lie to you and make you believe that they really are as invested in the relationship as you are. They also tend to make promises that they cannot keep or will not keep. They only do this to make you feel like they are as into you as you are, it is like making sure that they have the upper hand in the relationship.

3. Moving too fast into the relationship

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Narcissists often get what they want. When they realize that they are developing feelings for you, they rush into the relationship. They feel like it is something they really want and never think about their feelings and analyze the situation before getting into it. They are very impulsive people. This backfires later as they start pulling away from the relationship and realize that things were moving too fast. This is when they start to hurt the other person while trying to take care of themselves. They are also very seductive and use their charm to make you believe like it is the right time to get into the relationship even if you felt like you needed time.

4. Refusing to discuss the relationship

Since they tend to rush into relationships so much, they soon reach a point where they realize that it is too much for them to handle and start to pull away from it. When this happens, they try to not address the problems in the relationship. They do whatever they can to stay away from the topic. They also start to withhold their feelings making their partner feel like the relationship is very one-sided. They do this until they start to get comfortable with their feelings and start acknowledging them. This process can take a while but ends up hurting the partner a lot.

5. Hiding you from friends and family

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They often try to stay away from you in social settings and never call you for a get together with their friends. You may have heard a lot about their friends but might never have met them or even spoken to them. Sometimes, their friends might not know anything about you at all, or worse, they wouldn't even know that you exist. They also make sure to never introduce you to their family because that is a sign of commitment, something they are afraid of and cannot deal with. Narcissists like meeting you in private, alone, in a closed setting where they do not have to socialize with others. This also means that they are probably not interested in meeting your friends or family either.

6. Playing the blame game or the victim card

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When there is something wrong in the relationship people usually address it in order to fix things but narcissists try to avoid talking about it. When they have no option but to address it, then they find a way to put the blame on you even if it isn't your fault at all. They never take the blame for the things that have gone down in the relationship but rarely make an effort to fix things. They fix things when they feel like doing so when it is convenient for them to do so. If they know that they have hurt you, instead of apologizing they start playing the victim card and make you feel like you messed up again.

7. Extremely charming in social settings

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Narcissistic people tend to be extremely charming in social settings and they flirt around with others in front of you. They use their charm to impress everyone and make themselves the focus of the conversation. At the same time, they forget who you are and go around flirting with everybody else. When asked about it, they say that they were just socializing and making conversation like normal people and try to make you feel like you're being irrational and possessive, making you feel like the bad person.

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