Empaths have an inner beauty that shines through, but they rarely find people who appreciate them for who they are and love them unconditionally.
You'd think that the people with the most beautiful souls would be the most sought-after partners in the world, but love eludes the grasp of the empath to an almost tragic degree. Empaths are unbelievably sensitive people with an affinity for emotional connection at a level that can astound people. Their intuitiveness allows them to gauge the emotions of the people around them and to sense their feelings, and they use this gift to reach out to people and connect with them. However, despite their gentle, loving natures, empaths often feel lonely because very few people know how to love them, and it may be because of these characteristics.
An empath is not afraid to face the truth, even when it's difficult. They prefer to be honest about their feelings, even the negative ones, and they require the same kind of honesty in return from the ones they love. Unfortunately, many people are uncomfortable with honesty and prefer the comfort of their deceit, and they are intimidated by the openness and straightforward nature of the empath.
Empaths are deeply emotional people, and they often experience thoughts and emotions at a level that most others are unable to understand. To get into the head of an empath requires an incredible amount of empathy and understanding, and to connect with them at their level is something most people they date are unable to do. Empaths may be willing to settle for what they can get, but their partners often bail because they realize they can never give the empath exactly what they need.
One of the qualities of empaths is that they are often introverted, making it hard for them to be around other people constantly, even if those people include the person they are dating. They sometimes need some time alone to reflect on their thoughts, find themselves, and recover the energy they've lost in the bustle of daily living, and to some lovers, this time off can often be misinterpreted as rejection.
The quintessential empath has the rare quality of being completely in touch with their own feelings and needs, and they know exactly what they're looking for in a relationship. If they can sense that someone they're seeing is failing to meet their basic relationship needs or is unable to keep their promises, they won't sit around waiting for their heart to be broken. Instead, the empath removes themselves from the relationship and takes some time to heal before finding someone who will be there for them when they need them.
Rejection in even the smallest forms comes as a cruel blow for the empath who sees it coming and they feel the pain of it more intensely than their partners could ever imagine. If their partner makes a hurtful comment about them, they take it to heart. It's hard to convince an empath that a mean comment or cold gesture was unintentional because they know exactly what their partner is thinking, and they can sense the negative emotions before the rejection comes.
An empath's partners often find themselves entangled in the complicated thought processes that are constantly running through the empath's head. The empath's mind works faster than even they can keep up with, and the train of thought that goes into each action is hard for even them to explain, so a lover can often feel frustrated when they're trying to get to know an empath.
Probably the biggest reason why empaths find it hard to find committed partners is that they require their partner's complete devotion and unconditional love and nothing else will suffice. Empaths are some of the most devoted people around, and it's hard to match the intensity of their love and the level of commitment they bring to a relationship, and many people who try to date them quickly realize that they aren't up for the challenge, making empaths feel rather lonely indeed.