These tricks are hard to pick up on. Being with a narcissist is going to be a challenge as they're going to make you fight your inner self.
While we go about our normal lives, multitudes of people often collide with us to create experiences. Most of us meet people and try to make the most of our time with them. However, toxic individuals and narcissists tend to derive the 'most of their time' and pleasure out of manipulating people and controlling them. They are only concerned about how to get their own selfish needs fulfilled, and they usually don't care about the kind of destruction they leave in their bid to do so. What's worse is that they don't openly do this - they'll make you believe their fake care and concern.
There are high chances that you'll keep feeling like something is not right, but you can't exactly put your finger on it. They'll have dodgy ways of justifying their mean actions, or self-serving pursuits. And when you try to get out of the toxicity, they'll target your weaknesses to get you to be with them. Either way, it is necessary to identify if a narcissist is trying to take advantage of you, and here are their 7 subtle tricks that you are most likely to encounter:
This is one of their ever-active forms of social survival. Moreover, it does not take them much time to realize what their surroundings generally expect from them. Their primary mindset is to never appear like a threat but to charm you into opening up to them. And they're likely to be very quick about getting emotional information out of you through this trick. They are likely to conceal their own true emotions while they do this.
Another one of their sneaky ways to get you to do what they want is to make you feel like you are a lesser person. They know human emotions and their reactions to behaviors that make them feel like they are not worthy. For example, if they are losing an argument with you, they'll try and include another person and act like they don't care about you - while they are comparing you to that person. You're likely to be triggered to prove yourself to them, ultimately doing what they wanted.
Even when it is not your fault, or has any direct connection with you, they are going to hold you responsible for the problem they are facing. They keep harping on how you have made them unhappy. When this blaming thing is done over a long time, you are likely to be reduced to walking on eggshells around them and not challenge their inflated sense of infallibility. Since you are kept from challenging their authority even when they're wrong, it can make you go through hell doing what they want.
This is one of their really poisonous ways of hurting their targets. Things that you hold private and your personal information that you might have shared with them in confidence, all of them would be publicized to the public to humiliate you. They just enjoy the sense of power they get from doing this. When they create a negative image of you in public, they'll offer their help to hold you and take care of you, still manipulating you.
A dangerous trick that they use to drive their target crazy - literally. They want to control every aspect of your life, and when they weaken your sense of reality, they are at their strongest of being able to this. When this is used against you, you are not only battling their abuse but also trying to figure out if you're really going crazy. They'll use lies and manipulation to make you believe that you are going crazy. When your sense of identity is left deconstructed and afraid of insanity, they'll appear like they want to help you.
A narcissist knows that when somebody else can also sense they are doing something wrong with you, it'll empower your desire to stop being with them and also break their hold over you. They want to silence any opposing voice that might challenge their authority. Thus, you'll soon find yourself being criticized vehemently for being with friends and family. They'll try to prove that you are going crazy so that they can't believe you and your negative public image will only work to serve their purpose of isolating you.
This is another trick that they use to make you doubt your self-worth. They'll most probably use this to crush your sense of independence. You'll be praised, loved, flattered and get their whole attention when you do something that they desire. But when you show independent thought and agency of your own will, they'll be quick to withdraw their love and also actively criticize you for being who you are. Not only that, but you'll also find yourself being humiliated for the same skills and qualities that they had once praised when you were convenient to them.