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Married For 31 Years, Tom Hanks Reveals Secrets To His Long And Lovely Marriage To Rita Wilson

Married For 31 Years, Tom Hanks Reveals Secrets To His Long And Lovely Marriage To Rita Wilson

Hanks added his first marriage did not work out, because he was young and impulsive, and he was always working. For a marriage to last, you need to make a conscious and mature decision. “Don’t get married before you’re 30 years old,” said the actor.

When we hear of a celebrity marriage, we automatically assume they're going to announce they're divorced just as fast. Marriages, in general, take a lot of work and being a celebrity couple means that there are eyes on your constantly.  You wonder if they were ever in love and if their marriage ever meant anything to them. But, there are a few couples in the industry that have been married for the longest time and they are still oh-so-in-love and that instills some confidence in us when it comes to 'true love'. It doe exist and Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are proof of that! After all, they've been married and head-over-heels in love for more than three decades! Bet there's a secret behind it!



 

In conversation with People at the Outfest Legacy Awards in Los Angeles, Tom Hanks revealed there was no secret. “I wish there was a secret, you know,” Hanks, 59, said. “We just like each other. You start there.” There will be days when you don't agree with each other, and also days where you're just mad at each other, but you have to push through to make it work; you just can't give up at the first sign of trouble! But, for those who need some advice, he's got plenty for how to make a marriage work. 



 

1. Wait till you're 30 to get married



 

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson were destined to meet, as the two of them were cast opposite each other in the 1985 movie Volunteers. Just like their characters on-screen, Hanks fell in love with Wilson off-screen, too. It was not that easy, because Hanks was married and had two children, while Wilson was already engaged. But, when it's love, there's always a way. After three years, Hanks got divorced and finally got together with the love of his life. Hanks added his first marriage did not work out, because he was young and impulsive, and he was always working. For a marriage to last, you need to make a conscious and mature decision.  “Don’t get married before you’re 30 years old,” said the actor.

2. There are two of you in the marriage, so make sacrifices



 

You have to meet your partner halfway. That's just another rule to sustain a relationship. You can't always keep thinking of just yourself, as there's another person involved, too. So, before he got married to Wilson, Tom Hanks converted his faith to the Greek Orthodox Church as that was his to-be wife's religion. Marrying within the religion was something that was very important to Wilson, and For Hanks, she was just as important.  "I sacrificed something for my wife. Rita has Greek roots and they have the Orthodox faith. And I was a Catholic, so before getting married I converted my faith out of deep respect to her family.”

3. Those small gestures go a long way to show your partner you really care



 

Most of the time, people complain of how they don't see the love they did in the initial days of love. Small things go a long way in keeping love alive. “I view my wife as my lover, and we have a bond that goes beyond words like wife or girlfriend or mother. I can’t imagine my life without her. I often leave notes for her near the phone or somewhere in the kitchen. I wish her a good day and stuff like that. I type notes for her using the antique typewriters that I collect — I have more than a hundred. And also, I have a habit of sending a photo report of my day to Rita. I take pictures of everything around me when she is not with me: what I eat for lunch, who I meet, what I shoot. I think she likes it,” Hanks shares.

4. Supporting one another for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health



 

In a marriage, especially one that's lasted for 31 years, arguments and disagreements are bound to arise. There will also be unforeseen problems creeping in. Rita Wilson was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2015, and she told The New York Times that she was worried about how the diagnosis would affect the relationship. But she had nothing to worry because fighting through cancer just brought them closer. "You never know how your spouse is going to react in a situation like this," Wilson said. "I was so amazed, so blown away by the care my husband gave me." Tom said, “All I can do is bow down before the courage of my wife.” Thankfully, even without chemotherapy, the disease cleared up.

5. Love and accept your partner just the way they are



 

Never take anything for granted, and cherish what you have. Bad luck isn't always going to stay that way. “That woman has loved me skinny, she’s loved me fat. She’s loved me bald, she’s loved me hairy. That woman, I know, loves me. So, I’m a lucky man," said Hanks. “I think it’s hard to stay married anywhere, but if you marry the right person, it might work out. We give each other a natural sense of support for whatever the other wants to pursue," he said, according to The Mirror. “Our marriage doesn’t require vast work. We have been married 28 years and dig each other a lot," he added. 

6. Finally, to make a marriage work, all you have to do is find the right person



 

Tom's advice as simple a statement as, “My secret to a happy marriage is just being married to the right woman. I got lucky with the wonderful Rita Wilson. I’m the luckiest man alive.” And according to Epoch Times, “We laugh just as much now at two in the morning as we always have,” Hanks shared. Being married for thirty years and mutual support through thick and thin will definitely form an unbreakable partnership, one that can endure anything that life has to throw at them. 

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