When she popped in to say hi to her boss, he said that they needed to have a conversation about hygiene because she wasn't shaving her legs.
When it comes to hygiene, different people have different definitions for it. Not showering for a week may count as unhygienic, but people have their own reasons for it, and some of them could be very personal. The human body is designed in such a way that body hair is natural and there are benefits to it, but beauty standards, thanks to the patriarchy, have seen women shave, wax, and thread their hair off for centuries now. Times are changing and we're in a more body-positive space where people are given the freedom to be who they want to be and not follow the norms.
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Recently, a 21-year-old woman took to Reddit to post about how she was taken aback by a recent situation she faced at work. So I’m a 21-year-old female. I feel like I should say these things about myself because these are usually what people ask or say when they find out I rarely shave my legs. I’m straight, I’m very feminine, and I just don’t like to waste my time or money on shaving my legs. Also, I’m not a hairy person at all! You can barely see my leg hair, arm hair or even my god damn eyebrows.
She also said that she shaves only when she's going out on dates, but she's been with the same guy for a while now. The only time I shave is when I’m dating a new guy in my life and I’ve been with my current BF for 3 years now. Also, he doesn’t give a rats ass if I shave my legs. She then proceeded to explain where she works and what exactly she does: So I work for a promotion company where I travel and work at event and festivals. But today I had to go into the office to grab some materials and my boss was there in his office so I stopped to say hi before I left out.
But she did not expect to have this conversation with her boss: When I ducked in, he awkwardly asked me if we could talk about something. I said sure and came in and he shut the door. He was so red and stuttering but finally he told me we needed to speak about hygiene. I was in literal shock. I was so embarrassed and asked him what he meant. My boss then proceeded to tell me that a few people complained I didn’t shave my legs and they said it went against company policy that I wasn’t being hygienic. I was even more shocked.
I don't understand how it is company policy to shave your legs to work. What's even more baffling is the fact that the boss said it was unhygienic. I told him I didn’t understand what that had to do with me shaving my legs and he was just absolutely quiet. I asked him if he shaved his legs and he still said nothing. I then stood up and said if we were gonna keep talking about this I’d prefer HR to be there and he just told me that we didn’t need to discuss it any further.
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Even after her boss said there wasn't anything to be discussed further, she says she received a mail from the HR. Later today I just got an email from HR saying that they would like to set up a meeting for next week to talk further about the discussion that happened today. I’m freaking out and it’s making me so anxious. AITA for not shaving my legs for my job? How does it affect her job if she chooses not to shave her legs? How does it make a difference?
She added an edit: So people giving my boss hate I understand but I’m not mad at him and don’t blame him. I'm not sure but I feel like someone was in fact pressuring him to talk to me about this because he is a usually very chill and a nice guy who usually doesn’t even force dress code and stuff. But also I really have no clue what really brought this on all of a sudden since I’ve worked there 8 months with no incident.