Children often lead by example, and Billy Flynn Gadbois is doing exactly that. He's raising two boys to grow up and be good men especially in a difficult world we live in.
In most cases, a divorce ends on a bitter note with people fighting for custody of their children and property. But, it doesn't always have to be that way. People forget that they can be civil and cordial to one another, even if they go their separate ways. They walk around with so much hatred and negativity that it ends up affecting them in a way that there's just no returning from that. However, if you decide to let things go and be a better person, the world opens up a lot of doors for you. Billy Flynn Gadbois, a father, and an ex-husband took to Facebook to post about his ex-wife, and it's really heartwarming.
Billy spoke about the things he does for his ex-wife on her birthday, even though they're separated. The post, which was later picked up by Facebook page Love What Matters, read: It's my ex-wife's birthday today so I got up early and brought flowers and cards and a gift over for the kids to give her and helped them make her breakfast. Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me. So ima break it down for you all.
Billy has a family and he wants to set the right example. I'm raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced. So if you aren't modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your shit together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you.
People say that children follow your lead. They do what you do, and not what you tell them to do. So, when they see Billy being cordial to his ex-wife, even though they're no longer together, his kids will learn an important and valuable lesson that will hold them in good stead in the years to come. Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever. However, it wasn't always this easy, Gadbois told indy100.
"We didn't do as well as we would have liked in the first bit of our divorce. We had to take our lumps and learn our lessons along the way, that's for sure. We had things to overcome on both sides to be able to set our own cr*p aside to focus on the kids instead of our own anger and resentments. It's not easy, but it can be done! We've worked hard over time to establish our boundaries and find ways to manage our interactions so our own issues are minimalized or left at home when it comes to the kids," he said.
"It's an ongoing process but you can see a huge difference in the happiness and confidence and security of the boys since we started working at it," he added. Now, he's met the love of his life and he's happy. It's kind of bizarre how much things change when you meet the right person. When I would get depressed back in the day I had this whole routine where I would force myself to count my blessings, lay them all out and really think about them. Now when I wake up sad I just look over at who I’m waking up next to and I’m good. Crazy, he wrote on Facebook.