People who haven't had many chances at love appreciate every single second they spend with someone who loves them.
It's easy to think that someone who's been in plenty of relationships all their life would have learned the most about what it's truly like to love someone because they've had enough experiences to learn what relationships are all about. However, you'll be surprised to know that it's often the loneliest people who have had very few chances to find love are often the ones who get it right because they value their relationships so much more than the people who find love all too easily. Here's what the loneliest people know about true love that you may not realize.
Someone who has been starved of love knows how previous every tender look, every loving touch is. The smallest gestures can make their day, and they find joy in the simplest parts of a relationship, such as getting to hold hands with their partner in public or getting to kiss them goodbye every morning because they've wanted a love like this for so long. The delight they get from being in a relationship is so much greater than anyone could ever imagine.
People who have been lonely know that perfection is not what makes a relationship work. Many people get disillusioned when they realize that their partners aren't as perfect as the people they thought they were, but the loneliest people realize that everyone has flaws and that these imperfections are what make their lovers unique. They are willing to accept their partners for who they are and love them despite their weaknesses.
The loneliest people value their partners immensely because they see how much better their life is now that they've been given some relief from the long, lonely nights. They appreciate every little thing their partner does for them and every one of their partner's strengths because they have been longing for someone to share their love with for so long. They know how to make their partners like they're important to them because of how much they love them.
When you value someone so much, you are less likely to sabotage your relationship with them by throwing a tantrum or letting your anger get the best of you. That's exactly why people who have experienced incredible loneliness handle conflicts with so much maturity. They open the doors for communication and are willing to be humble and reach a compromise because the relationship is more important to them than their own anger.
One of the most important steps in a relationship that partners take is to finally let their defenses down around each other and show each other who they really are. Partners who trust each other are willing to let each other in and are real about their thoughts, struggles, and emotions with each other. People who have known what it's like to be lonely are willing to be honest with their partners because they know that a relationship cannot function with honesty.
Someone who hasn't been in a relationship for a long time has had plenty of time to think about the kind of relationship they want to have and the kind of partner they desire, and they are willing to be the ideal partner as long as they get that in return. Since they are not willing to settle for less, they often end up with people who match their desires and dreams and share in their vision for their relationship and their future, and these relationships can last for a long time.
Every relationship needs a healthy amount of independence, and people who have been lonely are often able to unwittingly maintain this autonomy because they're so used to depending on themselves. They know how to take care of themselves and they know how to respect important boundaries in their relationship because of this. They manage to retain what makes them the unique, beautiful individuals that their partners fell for.