Dealing with a toxic person is hard but what do you do when it's someone close to you? How do you get closure as well as let them know about their toxicity? Here are 7 red flags!
Compulsive and toxic liars are hard to manage as they've habitually learned to spin lies out of thin air to gain your trust. There's no rhyme or reason to their ways as they've become used to the routine and asking them to stop is like telling a fish to breathe without water. When you spend time with someone who's conditioned to lie, it makes you question things about yourself and your beliefs.
Compulsive liars know how to play with your mind, where they manipulate you with their theories and reasons. The only way to end the cycle is to turn your back and walk away from someone who's looking to ruin your life. However, spotting a compulsive liar can be a gargantuan task as they don't want to be spotted and will do their best to blend in with the crowd. If your instinct tells you something's wrong, trust it.
Here are 7 red flags that you've been hanging around with a toxic compulsive liar.
They're conditioned to lie about anything and everything where they find satisfaction from letting the other person revel in stories they've made up. You might lie to save a friend or even get out of a bad situation, however, compulsive liars lie when it benefits their needs, which happens almost everytime. They see lying as a way to accomplish their goals, it doesn't matter if it's creating problems for other people.
They don't stick to one story, the more they can switch with, the better their lies are. They're not new to the game of lying as they've perfected the art over the years on many people. When you catch them in a lie, they make sure to dodge your questions and alter their stories to perfectly fit your questions. Sometimes they're crafty enough to turn the blame on you, making you question yourself. Trying to catch them in a lie is like trying to make your way out of a maze.
They have zero remorse when it comes to lying where even if they're caught red-handed in the act, they'll cover it up with another lie to close the story or the accusation. They repeatedly convince themselves that they're right, no matter the consequences. Lying comes naturally to them, so they feel like they're justified in weaving their web of lies.
Sometimes people believe that you can change a person who's stuck in their bad ways but it depends on how deep they are in their black hole of lies. Their lying may or may not come from a deeply rooted problem from their lives and circumstances but it still doesn't justify the people they hurt and the lives they destroy. Compulsive liars can make you question your very sanity and even push you to lose confidence in yourself.
They lack empathy and won't try to look at a situation from another perspective. They always try their hardest to make it look like they're in the right, regardless of whether they're hurting someone in the process. They lie to get their way and it's not their first rodeo with you if you believe that they didn't intentionally mean to lie to you. You can't change a compulsive liar as they've been wired from a certain age and circumstances that have forced them to lie.
You might feel like the lies they spin are small in comparison to bigger ones you've come across. However, their lies keep building until something unrepairable happens where both of you can't turn back. The more involved you get with a toxic compulsive liar, the more you get sucked into their web of lies. They feed of your weakness and build from one lie to another.
They have conditioned themselves to believe that their lies are justified and have reasoning behind them. Their ego also plays a huge role in making them comfortable with the lies they spin. Even if they're confronted, they'll deny all grounds of the accusation by giving one justification or another. They live in a world where they're right and anyone who tries to challenge them is immediately shut down with a story they would've concocted on the spot.