Shawn Mendes opened up about the rumors about his sexuality. He says he's straight, and gets "mad" when people assume something else.
Shawn Mendes is addressing the rumors that surround his sexuality once and for all. The 20-year-old singer spoke about how 'hurtful' it was to him when his fans made assumptions about his sexuality, in an interview with The Guardian. For years, he's faced speculation that he identifies as gay from fans and media outlets. He also spoke about the numerous times he's tried to shut those rumors down on social media and through interviews. He said, "For me it’s hurtful. I get mad when people assume things about me because I imagine the people who don’t have the support system I have and how that must affect them."
In late 2017 he posted a moving Snapchat story, "First of all, I’m not gay. Second of all, it shouldn’t make a difference if I was or wasn’t. That was why I was so angry, and you can see I still get riled up because I don’t think people understand that when you come at me about something that’s stupid you hurt so many other people. They might not be speaking, but they’re listening."
In an interview with Rolling Stones, Mendes admitted that the attention on his personal life was actually causing him a lot of stress. “I’d like to say I don’t care about it, but that’s not true,” he said, while also talking about how there's "this massive, massive thing for the last five years about me being gay." Each and every comment made about his sexuality has affected him. If someone comments about the way he walks, talks, or sits, he makes sure not to do it the same way again. It's almost like he just can't be himself again.
"In the back of my heart, I feel like I need to go be seen with someone — like a girl — in public, to prove to people that I’m not gay,” he says. “Even though in my heart I know that it’s not a bad thing. There’s still a piece of me that thinks that. And I hate that side of me," he said. Last Christmas, he was reading YouTube comments about his sexuality when he decided he’d had enough. "I thought, 'You fucking guys are so lucky I’m not actually gay and terrified of coming out.'" he recalls.
“That’s something that kills people. That’s how sensitive it is. Do you like my songs? Do you like me? Who cares if I’m gay?” he questioned. Mendes also spoke about his upbringing, as he revealed he grew up with 15 female cousins, “braiding hair and painting nails. Maybe I am a little more feminine — but that’s the way it is. That’s why I am me.” He also said that he would, as a kid, put glitter on his eyelids to make his parents laugh.
When he's not getting angsty of the gay rumors, he candidly confesses that he's prone to jealousy when he sees other celebrities with their better halves like Dua Lipa with her boyfriend and Justin Bieber with his wife simply because he doesn't have a significant other to be clicked with. However, this is shortlived. He said, "It made me seem so creepy. If anything, the article made me realize your career isn’t over if people think you’re not perfect."
Social media was naturally abuzz about Shawn Mendes' comments regarding his sexuality. Deede posted, "Why is Shawn Mendes so offended by people thinking he might be gay? Literally, so problematic and gross." Bambi Toledo wrote, "Love him but just last week Brunei a nation member of the UN announced that they would murder people for having gay sex, but we are supposed to care that a straight guy feels hurt cause some people think he is gay? " Aron added, "Shawn Mendes bravely tells the world how “hurtful” those gay rumors are. Pray for him, we know not the suffering of a straight, white, male millionaire."
B. Anderson shared his thoughts, "Did @ShawnMendes stipulate that he would only perform on a night with a heterosexual white male host since he was such a victim and all; from all us gays who didn’t know what his orientation was but hoped he represented us and our community?#lgbt." Another user @lalalolopo said, "Why’s he so defensive about it??? It makes it seem like he has smth to hide or prove. Just brush off the rumors and move on. Being gay isn’t a bad thing or smth to get angry about it." In all honesty, his sexuality should be the last of everyone's concerns, including his. It does not matter, as long as you know what you're doing and if you're making some great music. It is your life, after all.