A Reddit user recently recounted how her Christmas vacation ended with her being called selfish and entitled after she quoted what she considered to be a fair price for babysitting her cousin's kids for 3 days.
As hard as it is to admit it, our families play a big part in making the holiday season an incredibly stressful time for many of us. While they say blood is thicker than water, it's not easy to get along with every single family member. One practically has to walk on eggshells to make sure nobody gets upset and with a heavy load of expectations placed on our shoulders, it would take a superhuman to actually pull off such a feat. A Reddit user recently recounted how her Christmas vacation ended with her being called selfish and entitled after she quoted what she considered to be a fair price for babysitting her cousin's kids for 3 days.
Taking to Reddit's r/AmItheAsshole community, u//HENNYDEFN wrote, "I'm a software engineer, with a full-time job and a side hustle of doing freelance coding work in my own time. I've always been the type to have a side hustle I put a lot of my free time into; I get really bored sitting idle. My freelance hourly rates are $60 an hour, and at my full-time job, my hourly pay works out to about $40 an hour. So that's how I value my time."
The Redditor went on to recount how the series of unfortunate events unfolded while she spent her Christmas vacation at her parents' house. "My cousin was also staying over with her three young kids from Christmas to new year's. I'd been planning on doing some work on my freelance projects when I had free time; in the mornings when my family had no plans. I wasn't in any rush; I was already ahead of schedule on them all, but I didn't really have anything else to do. It was in a really rural area and it's like an hour drive to the nearest anything," she wrote.
"Then my cousin and her husband asked if I could babysit all day for three days, so they could visit some friends in the area and hang out with just adults. I said I had planned on doing freelance work at the library, and she offered to pay me to babysit," she added. Although she could've made $60 an hour by working on her freelance projects, the Redditor didn't want to quote such a high price for her family and hence offered to babysit her cousin's for a considerably lesser rate.
"I said I could if they got close to my freelance rates. She wanted a number, and although my freelance rates are $60 I didn't feel like that was right, it was high. But I didn't want to go too low; honestly babysitting 3 kids would be harder for me than the routine coding work I had for my freelance project. I don't know a lot about kids and I've never babysat for long, and I had a feeling it would be stressful and difficult. So I said $35, which is below what I make hourly at work, and what is the bare minimum I'd value my time for if that time is spent doing difficult work," she explained.
Despite u/HENNYDEFN clearly making an effort to be considerate towards her cousin, her family failed to see it that way. "And she went crazy at me, saying that's a ridiculous rate for babysitting, that I was entitled and being selfish, that I'm trying to take advantage of how she didn't have other options, etc. I said that's way below what I'd be making if I had the time to do my own work, and I'd be putting off my own work to babysit. Her husband then got mad at me saying that I was a 24-year-old girl, that I'm damn near a child myself, that my time is not worth that much and it's childish to say that it was," she wrote.
"And that I was a stupid girl for not knowing that babysitting costs like 15 an hour when I grew up and have kids of my own I will see how stupid I was being. I was kind of done with being called stupid so I just told them I hoped they could find someone else. My mom thinks that I asked for something offensive, and my cousin and her husband obviously did too," the Reddit user concluded asking other Redditors if she was to be blamed for asking that she be paid $35 per hour for babysitting the children. Unlike the author's family, the r/AmItheAsshole community members were able to see that she wasn't at fault and that she'd only asked for a fair wage for her time. What do you think? Is $35 per hour too high for what she was tasked with?