After ten years of marriage and three kids, the pair decided to call it quits.
When Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck got married, it became one of the most publicized events in Hollywood. The two seemed to be completely smitten by each other and people thought that they would be one of the lucky few celebrities whose marriage would certainly last. But after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids together, they decided to call quits leaving their fans in utter shock.
"After much thought and careful consideration, we have made the difficult decision to divorce. We go forward with love and friendship for one another and a commitment to co-parenting our children whose privacy we ask to be respected during this difficult time," said the couple in a joint statement at the time, according to US Weekly. "This will be our only comment on this private, family matter. Thank you for understanding."
Although both assured that their split was an amicable one, the Argo actor revealed that splitting from Garner was his "biggest regret." He made this revelation while promoting his movie The Way Back in which he plays the role of a high school basketball coach who is struggling to keep his life straight. The character's battle constant battle with alcohol addiction and his struggles with a failed marriage reminded the 48-year-old a lot about his own experience.
While speaking to The New York Times, he said, "The biggest regret of my life is this [his and Garner's] divorce. Shame is really toxic. There is no positive byproduct of shame. It’s just stewing in a toxic, hideous feeling of low self-worth and self-loathing." He admitted that his alcohol addiction was one of the reasons behind their separation and revealed how it eventually ended up creating a rift between them. "I drank relatively normally for a long time," he recalled.
"What happened was that I started drinking more and more when my marriage was falling apart. This was 2015, 2016. My drinking, of course, created more marital problems," he shared with the outlet. His former wife decided to first separate before officially divorcing him since Garner still wanted to support him through his problems and put up a united front just for the sake of her children. Even when he was in rehab, the 13 Going to 30 actress stuck by his side because for her their love was real and that "it wasn't for the cameras," reports Vanity Fair.
Then in 2018, an insider told US Weekly, "Jen wanted to give Ben the time and opportunity to work on his health and sobriety … she isn’t in a rush. Jen just isn’t willing to settle the custody issues until she’s 100 percent certain that he’s clean. She’ll wait for him to prove he is taking it very seriously." Her sweet and supportive gesture was noticed and appreciated by the Affleck. "He is very appreciative of Jen being so supportive and giving him a chance to get better," revealed another source while speaking to US Weekly. "She has always been there for him and continues to be."
Even after a while since their divorce was finalized, Affleck felt shameful for what he had done. But he knew that wallowing in shame would do him no good. "It’s not particularly healthy for me to obsess over the failures — the relapses — and beat myself up," he told the Times. "I have certainly made mistakes. I have certainly done things that I regret. But you’ve got to pick yourself up, learn from it, learn some more, try to move forward."