The husband said he couldn't bear the thought of just being her "taxi driver" during his wife's pregnancy.
Pregnancy can get quite tricky with people and their demands. However, things are a bit difficult with one husband and wife who seems to have a fight brewing. The miffed husband took to Reddit to share what had happened. He wrote: My wife is pregnant and has told me that she wants her sister in the delivery room. She is only allowed one person, so this means I'm out and won't be with her when she gives birth to our baby. It would be an understatement to say that I was disappointed, crushed, hurt, etc. when she told me this is what she was thinking. I had been excited about being there with her and experiencing that moment ever since she told me she was pregnant - really even since we started trying to get pregnant.
Apparently, he expected her to say she wanted him there, which she didn't. I just always assumed she would want me there. Note the distinction here between me expecting to be there versus expecting her to want me there. I am pointing this out because what's worse than the disappointment is her rejecting me and basically telling me that she feels like someone else could give her better support while giving birth. That's really made me feel like a POS and worthless husband and father. I've tried not to take it to heart or personally, but I don't know how else to take that kind of rejection. It doesn't help that she's really given no reason for why she feels like her sister would do a better job of supporting her.
He said that he would have understood if this is what happened when his wife's sister gave birth. I know that her sister has had kids herself, but when I asked my wife if that was part of it she said not really. I then asked her if I had done something wrong or failed in some way or if she was upset with me, and she said it wasn't anything I'd done and she wasn't trying to punish me. She just felt like it would be better to have her sister there. I've asked for clarifications and that's as specific as she gets. It doesn't seem like she has a real list of reasons why her sister was chosen. It's just a feeling. Either that or she is lying to me and won't give me the real reason.
Of course, he does feel like he's being lied to. I had hoped she'd change her mind, but she's now confirmed this is how it will be. All of the things I've written about led me to tell her that if she really feels that way then I think it'd be better if her sister or someone else drove her to the hospital. Otherwise I'm just her taxi driver. Once she realized that I was serious she lost it and told me I was acting like a child and pouting. He feels like he's there only to take her to the hospital. I can accept that it's her choice, but if she doesn't want my support in the delivery room then why would she want it on the way to the hospital or at any other time? That's illogical, so there's no point in me doing that either.
The woman, who was tired of fighting, decided to go spend her time with her family. She decided to go stay with her family for a few days and since she has I am being constantly bombarded by both sides of the family and friends of ours telling me to let this go and stop being an asshole. I know they are trying to help, but I don't think they understand the situation and just want it resolved so they can all feel better. Just looking to confirm if I am as bad as they think I am. In an edit, he shared that the woman is still staying with her parents and that she showed no signs of coming back to their home.
It also looked like the situation between them has escalated to the point of no return. She confirmed what I'd guessed which is that she has no plans to come back any time soon, so someone in her family will be driving her anyway. I'm not really upset by that. I still feel it's for the best and I think she does too. We'll see what happens after the baby is born but I don't think it's likely we'll stay together, and given our differences and differing views on marriage that may be for the best anyway. I feel like our relationship has run it course and we're not a good fit for each other. I had already contacted a divorce attorney just to discuss a possible separation and things I might need to do to prepare for divorce, so I'll go ahead and start making plans assuming we're divorcing. I probably will end up doing a paternity test so I can confirm the baby is actually mind since some of your are saying you don't believe it is.