One shouldn't be forced to commit to veganism as it's a personal choice. But a Reddit user thought it was the best course of action to push her adoptive daughter to become a vegan as her biological child wanted that lifestyle.
A Reddit user thought it was the best course of action to push her adoptive daughter to become a vegan as her biological child wanted that lifestyle. Taking to Reddit, user u/throwawayveganfamily explained: Me (F43) and my husband (M45) are the biological parents of a lovely girl (15F). We always wanted a second child but because of some personal problems we were unable to. Three years ago we welcomed a young girl (13F now) in our family. There was not a single problem at that time, I think everyone was just a little stressed because it was a big change.
However, they are going through a family dispute after their daughter became a vegan 4 months ago. Hoping to support their biological daughter's "conviction", the parents chose to adopt veganism as "it is an important step in her adolescent life." Unfortunately, they failed to apply the same logic to their younger adoptive daughter's life who wants nothing to do with veganism. Now, their 15-year-old doesn't want any animal products in the house so she has been "pressuring" her parents into forcing her 13-year-old sister "to go vegan."
Supporting their own daughter, they decided not to purchase the products that she repulses and of course, this doesn't sit well with the 13-year-old but the family is planning on forcing the lifestyle on her anyway. We already promised our bio daughter to go full vegan with her as a family. We plan to force everyone to eat vegan from now on as our daughter well-being is the most important thing to us. We hope that this tension disappears with time, but if it doesn’t, we don’t really know how to handle the adopted daughter. We tried to let them discuss this between girls, but it became very heated, wrote the Redditor.
Displeased with their decision, the adoptive daughter decided to "sleeps at a friend’s house because she was mad at our daughter." Seizing this opportunity, the family shifted to the vegan diet that their elder daughter has been asking for. When she comes home, she will have to comply to the new diet, wrote u/throwawayveganfamily. Speaking about the mixed reaction received from their friends, the parent wrote: We spoke with some friends and their reactions were mixed, some supporting us while others found it unnecessary. Would we be the a**holes if we forced her to go vegan to maintain the peace in our family
Other users of Reddit called out the parent for favoring their biological daughter over their "adoptive" child. What your daughter (adopted or not) eats is entirely up to her. You are clearly, clearly, favoring one daughter over the other, and the fact that she's adopted shouldn't even have been mentioned. How many more times, I wonder, have you put the bio-kid first without caring a whit about what the other child thinks? Bio-kid is going to end up one of those obnoxious holier-than-thou vegans that everyone hates, and adopted daughter is going to end up going no-contact with you when she's grown. I'm not honestly sure if you even care though. YTA, wrote users hockeypup.
User SqueaksBCOD blasted the users and expressed: You are literally one of the most vile assholes i have seen on this subreddit. You went to the bother of adopting a daughter and you openly admit that she is second on your priorities??? They are BOTH your DAUGHTERS... PLURAL! That sentence should never be typed or spoken by someone with adopted children. Why on earth did you bother "adopting" her if you were not going to treat her 100% equal? Another Radiant-aside explained how the family's behavior is going to affect the adopted daughter psychologically. Yes, you would be the a**hole. You should NOT do that. A child, especially a child who has experienced the trauma of being in foster care/adopted, needs a parent who allows (and accepts and LOVES) them just as they are. By forcing her to fit whatever mold your 15 year old has created only makes her feel like who she is is not okay. Don’t do that. Let her express herself through her eating habits however she wants, they wrote.