Even after specifically telling them not to do it, the grandparents went ahead because they felt the little one would look "cuter" with piercings.
Parents know best, but when does it become too much? As adults, I think kids are entitled to make their own decisions, and parents must know where to draw the line when it comes to intervening. However, one young couple was quite furious because of an incident that took place when they weren't around. The angry couple took to Reddit to share what exactly happened. Apparently, the OP, a 22-year-old male and his fiancee, 23, had left their nine-month-old baby with his parents, but they got her ears pierced without even checking if it was okay for them to do so.
"Me and my fiancee (22m & 23f) had our baby girl Thalia and she just turned 9 months old," shared OP, and he mentioned that his family members were dropping by quite often to see the beautiful baby. "Everyone in our family has been coming around more to see her." However, a couple of months ago, something happened between the couple and his parents. And so, they stopped talking to them. So, here's what happened. The parents had been putting off piercing their child's ears, thinking they'd leave it to the child to decide. "We basically decided it was gonna be up to Thalia when she older if she wants to get her ears pierced."
"Tbh I was never into the idea of it being done as a baby when they can’t consent like my fiancée's parents pierced her ears when she was a baby and she always hated wearing earrings. Still doesn’t wear any." He explains how it was a decision he made with his wife, as parents of the child. "Just like every other parent that was our decision not to do it to her while she’s a baby. My parents didn’t shut up about it for a while saying 'she’d look so cute.' But we told them already no and that’s our answer." However, his parents were determined to get their granddaughter ear's pierced because they believed it would make her look cuter.
"When they babysat for us once they got one of my mom’s friends to do it and we were fucking pissed they went behind our backs. We stopped talking to them after that for disrespecting our decision. Everyone was saying we were making a big deal and we can’t cut them out their granddaughter's life over something like that." So, now, the parents have decided to let the grandparents back into their lives, but they will never leave them alone with Thalia. "That’s where everyone is still saying we’re being massive a-holes because we’re still punishing them over something that’s not a big deal and we’re treating them like children."
"Even my fiancées' parents think that only letting them have supervised visits is too much and they should be allowed to babysit or have Thalia at their place alone like before." Despite all this pressure, the family still doesn't want to let OP's parents completely into their lives. "We’re still not wanting to change our minds on our conditions so it’s pinning everyone against us." Several people pointed out that there is nothing wrong with the way the couple reacted to the incident, and that they had every right to be furious when someone makes modifications to their child's body without their consent. But, what do you think? Who is right here?