One mom took to Reddit to explain how her daughter was bullied to such an extent that it ended in a broken wrist.
Parents would do everything in their power to keep their children from getting hurt but despite their best attempts, they are left helpless when the kids are subjected to bullying in school. Sometimes this pent-up anger results in actions that many wish they hadn't taken and this is exactly what a mother experienced. Taking to Reddit's popular "Am I The As*hole" subsection, user mamabear_aita explained how her daughter's school asked to cut her daughter's bully some slack because she had experienced a recent loss. This left the mom furious and evoked a strong reaction that she wasn't sure was the right decision. The Redditor began by giving a brief description of her family. So I(38F) have 5 kids, all internationally adopted as I am infertile. This, in particular, is about one of my daughters (9f), I will call her Zoey as it starts with the same letter as her real name, she wrote.
Zoey just entered 4th grade, she's going to school in person this year. Well, one girl(I'll call her Cat) has been picking on Zoey a lot. I'm not one of those moms who makes a huge fuss over every little squabble, she explained. Revealing how nastily Cat has been behaving with Zoey, the 38-year-old mom continued, Cat has picked on Zoey for being adopted, being Asian, and started rumors that she has the virus. Every time Zoey tries to tell her teacher, her teacher either brushes it off as a "conflict" or says that Cat is dealing with a lot and not to mind her even though that is very hard for Zoey.
The concerned mother has been documenting every incident of bullying, she explained writing: I have learned with one of my older kids to document every incident of bullying that happens to my child, I just write down the date and what they say happened in a notebook. It usually turns out to be nothing. I have done this for what Zoey has said about Cat. However, the latest incident seemed to be the "final straw" fo the mother when she was called in by the nurse after Zoey fell from a tress at recess and hurt her arm. So the mother rushed to the school as her daughter required urgent care.
When they sat inside the car, Zoey told her exactly what had happened and it enraged the 38-year-old beyond anything. When we got in the car she said what really happened was Cat told her if she climbed up the tree she would let her sit on the class bean bag or something like that. When Zoey did it Cat began shaking the other end of it. When Zoey fell out of the tree Cat ran away. When her teacher got there she tried to tell him what happened but he scolded her for climbing up there (granted he didn't know how bad it was) and took her to the nurse, she wrote noting that her daughter's wrist had broken as a result of this silly prank.
Her wrist was broken because I guess she tried to catch herself from falling and ended up twisting it backwards, she explained. After she was home with my husband I marched into that school p*ssed off. I ended up having a meeting with the guidance counselor and her teacher. Her teacher kept trying to call it a fight or conflict(giving them equal blame basically) or saying that she shouldn't have climbed the tree in the first place. Then he said that at the beginning of the year Cat's parents told him that her grandma died over the summer so cut her a little slack. She concluded: I said I didn't care and she should still be punished. He seemed shocked that I said I didn't care. We have all this week off so I've taken a little time to cool off and now I'm not sure if I'm TA for saying that. AITA?
User dwn2kelz, who did not think the mother was wrong, wrote: Not that it matters anyway. The parents going into the school year saying to cut her slack for any reason just means they know their child is out of control and don't want anyone to punish her and making excuses for her before the fact. There is no excuse in the world for anyone to treat others poorly. Frankly, I would be asking for a meeting with those parents as well. It wont go anywhere though since they clearly think their child's issues trump any other child's feelings and wellbeing. NTA 10000%