At first glance, everyone would assume there's some bad blood brewing between the bride and the mother-in-law, but there's a story behind why she wore a bridal dress, and the reason will touch your heart.
Weddings are a stressful affair and things don't really go as planned as we expect it to. Being a wedding guest comes with a lot of rules and regulations, but the first rule is to give the bride and groom the most attention and to not do anything that really steals their thunder. It is their day after all. One such rule is that you can't wear a wedding dress to someone else's wedding. Besides, there's always a preconceived notion that mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law never get along. So, understandably, when Amy Pennza’s mother-in-law showed up to her big day in a white bridal gown, everyone assumed it was because the woman wanted to piss her off.
Surprisingly, Pennza wasn't angry or upset. To date, she doesn't even hold a grudge against her mother-in-law. It's shocking how someone can pull off such a stunt and just get away with it? Well, for that, you'll need to go through Pennza's story to know why she understands her husband's mother so well and did not take offense, even when it was something that would have ruined someone else's big day for them.
Here's where it all started. Amy Pennza had tweeted in response to Jimmy Fallon's call on epic wedding fails.
Obviously, her tweet went caught the attention of everyone and went viral. People were invested and wanted to know more. Was she still with the woman's son? Did she throw a tantrum? They were hungry for details.
Ma'am. Drop some deets, write the article, get the book together with pseudonyms because this here is a story.— Cipher (@snarkylicious) June 19, 2019
Hi Amy, hope you’re having a great day. We’re all interested in hearing the story on how to this came to be, if you and your husband are still married and if not, how long was the marriage and did you cuss her ass out. We’re patiently waiting, thanks. pic.twitter.com/DbHgSsBaR4— Audrey Brooks (@Mickey1Fan) June 19, 2019
Honestly this silence is truly unacceptable. AMY!!!! COME ONNNNN! lol. Did you even end up marrying this dude!? Sooo many questions!— Nyssa (@kneezurr) June 19, 2019
Amy Pennza then took to Twitter to explain the situation.
So, a couple people have asked for the story behind The Dress. Sorry for the delay! I have four kids (yes, I married him) on summer break, so my permanent state of being is "frazzled." I called my daughter "mom" the other day.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
I didn't know what my mother-in-law planned to wear. I didn't think to ask. pic.twitter.com/Gq6p2E50Gx— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
The morning of the wedding, all the women in the bridal party cram into a tiny room in the church. You know, body glitter and hairspray everywhere. Fifteen coats of mascara. Putting napkins under your pits so you don't sweat on your dress.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
I don't remember much about the day. Most people say their wedding is a blur, and that's true for me, too. But I know I said this: "You... You could be the bride..."— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
Her sister, bless her, was hoping that Pennza wouldn't notice with all the wedding activities going around her.
Later, my sister (matron of honor) said she didn't pull me aside and talk about it because she hoped I was too distracted to notice. My college roommate (bridesmaid) said the same thing.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
But secretly, they both spent the reception looking at me, then each other, then MIL, then me, then the cop the venue made us hire—hoping I didn't go for his taser.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
I'm happy to report the wedding unfolded without bloodshed, or anyone being shoved into the champagne fountain.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
And here's where you need to grab your tissues.
Here's the thing: My mother-in-law is extremely frugal. And I don't mean she just enjoys a good bargain. To understand her, you have to know where she comes from.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
She grew up in extreme poverty. As a child, she used to sneak into the kitchen and eat match heads. That's a pica craving, and kids do it when they're malnourished.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
When you grow up with nothing, it stays with you. Forever, I think. No matter how much money you earn, there's always that little fear in the back of your mind that someone might take it all away.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
But her upbringing didn't make her hard. Or cruel. Or selfish.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
Coming from an impoverished background, Pennza's mother-in-law knew she had to make the most of what she had, and it often reflects in her epic money-saving skills to date. Can you really blame her?
However, she's a bargain hunter to the bone. Her money saving strategies are legend—and often hilarious. At family gatherings, we amuse ourselves telling stories of crazy shit she's done to save money.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
For example, she takes the olives and celery out of a Bloody Mary and saves them for salads.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
She once walked casually to the table where I was eating a subway sandwich and put my discarded cold cuts in a baggie because "someone will eat them."— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
When Sally Jesse Raphael was popular, she didn't have the money to buy red glasses, so she painted hers with red nail polish.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
"I still have those," she says.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
As they say, "old habits die hard", Pennza's mother-in-law lives for bargains even as she grew older.
She was so excited to turn 60, so she could claim her discounts. As long as there's a bargain involved, she doesn't care about getting older.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
When my husband and his sisters were young, and they went to dinner, she'd try to get coupons back from the server so they could reuse them.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
She always has a plastic water bottle in her purse. At restaurants, she'll fill up her bottle with water from the table. "Why not? I'm paying for it."— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
She brings her own mint and lime to restaurants because "the bartenders don't know how to make a good Mojito."— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
When my daughter drinks ice water, my mother-in-law makes her put the empty glass on the counter. "Leave the ice in there...it'll melt and make more water."— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
Now, with the wedding (then) around the corner, Pennza explained how her mother-in-law picked up the dress. Her mother-in-law later learned the errors of her ways and felt bad about it.
So when she spotted The Dress at an incredible bargain, she couldn't turn it down. If you ask her now, she says she feels terrible about it.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
Although, she also told me, "I think I've still got it. We should raffle it off."— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
However, there was no malice behind the mother-in-law intention of wearing the wedding dress to her son's wedding (like most assumed to be). It's just that she found a great dress at a steal and wanted a chance to shine in the dress, and what better opportunity to do that than at a wedding? Pennza holds no hard feelings against her mother-in-law because she is a caring and generous soul, and has been there for Pennza and her family when it was needed the most.
She's frugal. But she's also incredibly generous. When my twins were newborns, she drove across town every night, slept on the sofa, and did three feedings. For two babies. Every night for months.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
She regularly shows up at my house with bags of new clothes for the kids. (Because she's a kick ass bargain hunter.)— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
When I got my first job, she hemmed all my work pants because I can't sew for shit. And because she was proud of me.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
She never misses a band concert, sports event, talent show, science fair...you name it. She'd walk over hot coals for her grandchildren. She gives them everything. Because, you know, she grew up with nothing.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
Instead of fretting and fuming, Pennza saw the humorous side to this unforgettable event which is bound to make people remember this for years to come. She was even concerned that her mother-in-law might feel hurt when the thread blew up. But her mother-in-law wasn't bothered, she was only happy to know that it made her "famous".
So, yeah, the wedding dress was a shock. But it gave me a pretty funny memory. No one who attended has ever forgotten it. And, you have to admit, weddings can be forgettable.— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
Sure, she wore a wedding dress to my wedding. But she has more than made up for it since. When I told her about this getting a lot of attention, and said I worried it might hurt her feelings, she waved it off. "Whatever makes me famous."— Amy Pennza (@AmyPennza) June 20, 2019
We are so quick to judge something that we actually fail to see the real reason behind something. We wouldn't have known it if Pennza hadn't taken the time out to explain it to us. Soon after this thread, people changed their minds!
It's a great ending but I'm still kinda mad tho... pic.twitter.com/kmCXbZfnjB— Lesly (@leslysimmons) June 20, 2019
Oh my god this was the best unexpected twist ever— FiveAfterEight (@FiveAfterEight) June 20, 2019
I think she may be the first and only person able to get away with this understandably 😂— Jessica-Roisin Nolan (@jessicaroisin) June 20, 2019