The groom-to-be revealed that his fiancée went ballistic when she found out that he paid for the surgery without asking her when they’re planning a wedding.
When you meet someone, you want them to be a part of your life forever, and then take your relationship to the next step. You expect that they have the same priorities and interests as you do, so you get along well. But now, a distraught man has taken to Reddit to share his story after he was left confused about a situation he's in. User u/Unsurebigbig is a pet parent to a German Shephard. My dog (German Shepard) began acting strangely a few months ago. First couple vet visits didn’t show anything until eventually, we felt a large lump under his fur which was later identified as a tumor.
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I can only imagine the state of panic he would've been in. It was confirmed to be malignant and required surgery to remove completely. Anything could go wrong during the surgery. The vet I spoke to said it would likely cost over $5000 to remove it completely and there’s no guarantee it will be a success. I don’t know why the cost was so high, but it didn’t matter to me. My dog is my dog and there is no question in my mind that paying for the surgery was the right thing to do.
His dog means the world to him, so he didn't hesitate when it came to paying for the cost of the surgery. I paid for the surgery out of my own savings. This is important. My fiancée and I have separate finances and my savings are easily 5x what she had saved up. When she found out how much the surgery cost, she went ballistic that I paid for the surgery without asking her when we’re planning a wedding.
Why should it matter to her that he chose to spend money from his savings on HIS dog? She says that she will have to downsize her wedding to compensate and that my dog is already so old (10) the money “wouldn’t go far.” I can’t even comprehend how she could say that to me. If it were me, I wouldn't stay with someone who disrespects my dog like that. I honestly can’t empathize with her here, which has caused a massive rift in a previously amazing relationship. My dog is my dog and he’s a member of the family.
I refuse to put a few thousand dollars over his well-being. My fiancee is acting as though I’m being selfish and that our wedding should come first since we’re starting a family. Well, maybe it's time to tell her that the "family" involves your dog as well and his well-being matters just as much to you as the wedding does to her. She hasn’t talked to me since other than to tell me to take out the garbage, clean the dishes, etc. If I try to engage conversation she will shut down or walk away.
She refuses to talk this over unless I get on my knees, grovel and apologize. I can’t bring myself to do this as a matter of principle and self-respect. I don’t want to throw away the relationship, but at the same time, I feel this is something I cannot compromise on. One user commented: I do understand what you mean but what if she said no? Which is what I think would have happened. Does she have the right to tell him what to do with his money? To be honest, if it were me I would have done the same. There would be no doubt that the pet would come first.