Many have criticized the mom for teaching her son to discriminate rather than accept people for their differences.
It goes without a saying that parents want what's best for their children even if it means putting themselves in a tight spot. But making these unpopular decisions just so their child can have the best of a particular situation could impact both their lives and their kids.
Taking to Reddit's AITA (Am I The A*****e) platform, one mother shared a dilemma she found herself in when she made the decision to exclude the only autistic boy from her son's birthday party which was supposed to happen next week.
Soon enough, she was condemned by other Redditors for teaching her kid to discriminate against differently-abled children rather than educating him about the significance of accepting differences.
User DisastrousTaro0 began the post by writing: My son's 10th birthday is next saturday and me and my husband have been planned a party for him. To make sure we gave everyone enough time we got invitations ready 2 weeks in advance and I had my son pass them out Friday. We invited everyone in his class (he goes to a small private school so there were only 15 kids to invite). Except for one child well call david.
She then added that David attends "a program for special needs kids" at her son's school, where "they are put into a 'normal' class once a week." Describing the autistic kid as "high functioning", the parent wrote: David is a high functioning autistic child who was put in my sons class to help him socialize and to help the other kids learn to not discriminate against special needs people.
The mother acknowledges the fact that David's mother is doing the best she can for her son and that, "I have nothing against either of them." However, the only concern that she heard some news about David's meltdown during a similar party.
However, there have been incidents with David before. Last year through friends I had heard that David had a meltdown at another party he was invited to. I don't know if I believe it but parents who were there say that it was because he wanted to open presents like the birthday boy and when told no freaked out. There are other logistical problems as well (The party will be in a loud arcade) so in the end, I decided to not invite David, continued the post.
When the word about this exclusion reached David's mother, she immediately called up the Redditor and said, "I am awful for excluding her son and that I'm teaching my son to discriminate."
Furthermore, she added, When I brought up the logistics and the past incident she told me that I'm an asshole for assuming what her son can and can't do before hanging up. I woke up this morning to a passive-aggressive post by her and many other parents are siding with her. I just want my son to have a good party and didn't mean anything by this.
Soon this post was bombarded with words of criticism, with several people slamming her for being "cruel." One Reddit user wrote: Look, I understand your concern about the meltdown. But you could have spoken to his parents beforehand about the environment and potential ways to mitigate that; you could have spoken to your son's teacher to see if s/he has advice for how David is in group situations. You don't even know how his behavior may have improved over the past year specifically because of being included socially. This would have been a good chance to teach your son to include people, and instead, you taught him it's okay to exclude someone if their disability makes your fun time slightly more difficult.