It's extremely crucial to be sensitive with children involved but one widow did the exact opposite of this and Redditors are not fond of her.
In most cases, widows and widowers find it extremely difficult to move on. While some swear never to date again, others chance upon love when they least expect it. However, it's crucial to be sensitive when there are children involved. One widow did the exact opposite of this and people on Reddit miles away from taking her side. User brandwoeswmw took Am I The As*hole section on Reddit two days ago and shared that her husband passed away a year ago and that the 31-year-old felt lucky to have found love once again.
She has been dating her 22-year-old boyfriend for five months now and they recently moved in when the lockdown began. But an incident that occurred a day before she posted her concern left her with a feeling of uncertainty. Yesterday I come home from shopping and saw my daughter (13) crying, shared the user. My late husband owned a pottery studio and would gift specially designed plates and cups to my daughter. We have been keeping those pieces in the same cabinet as the fine china. Today she opens the dishwater and comes to see that my boyfriend and the friends he had over had used the plates and cups her dad designed for her. And one of the cups was particularly chipped and the rest had stains on them from the food and sauces they were eating. She starts screaming that she hates my boyfriend, she continued.
That's when the mother confronted her boyfriend, who got really upset about the whole thing and began accusing her daughter's friend of touching his property. He brings up the fact that he had caught one of my daughter’s friends drumming his guitar a couple days ago even though he had said that this was his and his alone. He then gets emotional and says that it’s ridiculous that I would defend someone who was clearly intruding upon his personal property, wrote the 31-year-old who was now exasperated with her 13-year-old for Constantine yelling at the boyfriend as she was sent to her room. Later that day when she went to give her child dinner, the girl claimed, "that my boyfriend also said that I was a fool for even thinking of siding with a brat who has never contributed anything to the world and has been leeching off me since she was born."
Of course, she asked her boyfriend who said, "that never happened and she’s lying to break us apart." She continues to affirm that her boyfriend could never say such a thing to her daughter as she has never personally "heard him." So I go back to my daughter and ask her to apologize to my boyfriend for disrespecting his property and she refuses, calling him a bunch of disrespectful names. I subsequently ground her, but say that she’d be free to do as she pleases once she apologizes and is willing to start a mature discussion with myself and my boyfriend since we are a family now. The guitar is very important to my boyfriend, and he felt very hurt that she and her friend were practically rolling their eyes at his wishes. I want my relationship to work, and my boyfriend is already stressed from work and is made even unhappier by my daughter’s attitude, she wrote concluding the post.
User SparklyUnicornLady assured that the mother was to blame in this situation. YTA for moving a boyfriend into your home just just a year after your husband and child’s father passes away. YTA for moving a boyfriend into your home who allows his friends to damage your daughter's keepsakes from her father. YTA for not stopping your boyfriend from making the argument about him and his guitar. YTA for believing your boyfriend over your daughter. YTA for taking your boyfriend's side when your daughter is clearly grieving her father. YTA for asking your daughter to call your boyfriend “family” after you’ve only been dating him five months and her fathers only been dead a year. Just to be clear: there is absolutely no place in this situation where you are not the asshole. I am concerned for your daughter's wellbeing due to your poor judgment, and I am heartbroken for your daughter's loss of her father, and for how she must feel that now she lost her mother as well. I hope you can put your own love life on the back burner for a couple of years to rebuild the relationship you destroyed with your daughter. If you don’t, she is going to cut you out of her life as soon as she can, and with good reason, they shared.