If your mom is still a part of your life, cherish every moment with her.
Like most other daughters, I had a very unique bond with my mother. I grew up with her support every step of the way. She always said that I developed a bond with her even before I was born, and she knew we'd be best friends when she felt me kick as she listened to heavy metal. I always knew my mother would be there for me, during my difficult times and my successes. It gave me the confidence to deal with anything life threw at me. Unfortunately, I was forced to say my last goodbye to my mother, who I now believe is in a much better place.
She was diagnosed with a tumor and she didn't have a lot of time left. We tried everything we could to help her but in vain. Even though she underwent these painfully rigorous treatments, she never let her smile falter. In fact, she comforted me when a stray tear would slip down my cheeks. Now, when I look back, I can't believe just how much I took her for granted. I mean, this is what people mean when they say that you won't know the value of something in your life until it's gone. I was 23 when I lost my mother and it's the one day I will never forget. The toughest thing I've ever had to do is to say goodbye to my mother.
It's the little things that were the hardest at first. The mug of coffee she came up with every time I woke up early to study for a quiz or the food she made for me because she knew I loved it. Then came the holidays and they were just so difficult. It's been over a decade since she left, but the holidays never get easier without her. But, you know what actually got me through these years? My mom. Even in heaven, I knew she'd be there, looking out for me. I know that all the right choices I've made so far are all because of her guidance. I'm sure she's still helping me out, as my guardian angel.
I have a great job, a loving family, and happy life, and I strongly believe it's all because of my mother who has been looking out for me since forever. Sometimes, I hear her voice, nudging me to go ahead with something when I take a minute to decide. I hear her telling me it's okay when I make a mistake and sometimes she comes into my dreams. I cherish the dreams in which I see her, and I end up crying, but I don't for too long because I know that would break her heart. But she always used to tell me that just because someone isn’t around physically doesn’t mean they aren’t in your heart, and sometimes that’s all you need.
If your mom is still a part of your life, cherish every moment with her. Treat her like a queen! Remember, she doesn't want fancy things, all she wants is to love and be loved. So, take her out for a shopping spree, go for dinner with her, just the two of you. Go binge on movies and take that trip you've always wanted to. Yeah, life can be hectic and can get in the way, but when was the last time you got to spend some time with your mom? Can't remember? Then take the day off and go hang out with her, you'll thank yourself later. For now, I'll hold on to the memories I have of her and seek comfort in the fact that she's still watching out for me.