The 15-year-old girl was aware of a school rule that stated that bathroom breaks were not allowed in class, but she was worried her pad would leak.
Discussing menstruation with women is not something every man is comfortable doing, sadly even to this day. That being said, if he has ever taken a basic human biology class, or had any female figures in his life, he is ought to know the crux of it. This is why a mother was left completely "shocked" when her daughter's teacher asked the girl to "hold in" her period as if it was possible. Taking to Mumsnet, a popular discussion platform for parents in the United Kingdom, the mother shared her daughter's experience under the "Am I Being Unreasonable" thread.
The post read: DD is 15 and her school have a no going to the toilet during lesson time rule, which I completely agree with on the whole as I know how disruptive it can be if people are constantly in and out, and how everyone just uses it as an excuse to bunk off (I am a teacher too - very different environment though) Only exception is if you have a medical note from a doctor. Today in one of her lessons DD says she could feel that she really needed to change her pad, she was getting quite worried about it leaking. She eventually asked the (male) teacher if she could go to the loo.
Sharing the details of the distressing conversating, she continued:
Teacher: No, you know the rules
DD: I really need it.
Teacher: What did I just say?
DD: It's a girl problem...
Teacher: What do you mean?
DD: Umm... I'm on my period
Teacher: Break is only in half an hour, hold it in til then
Obviously those aren't the exact words said but she says it's pretty accurate.
DD is quite shy so did just wait til break (no leakage btw).
She doesn't seem overly bothered but AIBU to be pretty shocked at him telling her to hold it in? Surely even men have some basic idea that it doesn't work like that?
So, does her teacher actually think that women can hold back their period blood? Given his profession, I'm sure he knows a bit about biology and that he knowingly put his student in a position to be embarrassed. Following this, the mother revealed that her daughter ended up waiting for nearly two hours before she got the opportunity to change her pad. Among several parents, there were some who expressed that the teacher was right to say no as students usually lie about their period just to get out of a class. One user wrote: It's true - girls do use "it's my period" to get out. I've never had a period myself that would cause instant drowning in a half-hour, I must admit.
However, most of them maintained that the teacher was completely wrong for asking the 15-year-old to hold it in. Sanshin expressed: Hold it in???!! How the [redacted] is hse meant to do that? Does the moron not realise that we don't piss out blood voluntarily?! If we could do that then there would be no need of sanitary products surely? God, I am actually raging on your behalf. The [redacted] needs telling. Then there was another user who felt that the woman's daughter should have disobeyed the teacher and headed for the washroom immediately.
They shared: In situations (where teachers are being idiotic about the toilet rules) I would always tell my dd to just leave and go to the toilet, if she gets into trouble so be it - I would back her up. Trying to deal with a period leak or a dodgy tummy it would be worse to not go to the loo and spend the rest of your school life remembered as 'the girl who leaked everywhere or shat herself' then nipping out of the classroom for 5 mins and maybe getting detention.