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Man Cuts Off His Elderly Parents Financially After They Disowned Brother For Being Gay

Man Cuts Off His Elderly Parents Financially After They Disowned Brother For Being Gay

A Redditor was subjected to intense criticism by his family members but on the social media platform, most people agreed that he did the right thing.

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It's heartbreaking, if not infuriating, to see that homophobia still exists in the world today. It's painful enough to be on the receiving end of this prejudice from strangers but to have unsupportive parents who treat you the same way is excruciating. When a man's parents decided to disown his younger brother just because he was gay, he retaliated by cutting them off. Taking to Reddit's Am I The A**hole section, User Throwawayolderbro534 wrote: I’m a 24-year-old software engineer originally from an Arab Muslim country. I moved to the United States with my parents when I was five years old, and my younger brother was born here. He is now 16. A year ago, my brother came out to me as gay. It wasn’t a surprise to me, I’ve always been very close to my brother. 

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The supportive sibling continued: We grew up in a majority white town and my brother was picked on frequently as a kid for being Arab, and on top of that he’s always been very shy and quiet, so I was the number one person my brother confided in while growing up. I’ve known he was gay for years but I let him tell me when he felt comfortable. When he told me I was obviously completely supportive. I told him I would always love him and support him, and I couldn’t wait to see my brother-in-law someday, jokingly. My brother cried and hugged me. Describing how "very, very homophobic" their parents are he wrote: I know you guys in America have experience with homophobia too, but trust me when I say you have no idea the extent of it in fundamentalist Muslim countries.

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Now, the Original Poster or OP is the one earning and taking care of his family's expenses. My parents are in their seventies and are both retired. They spent most of their careers back in their home countries and never built any savings in America, due to financial strains. We live in their house but I’m the primary breadwinner and I make good money as a software engineer. My job isn’t one that requires me to be physically at work so I have fortunately avoided any negative financial effects from the pandemic, it read. After spending a lot of time deliberating over the matter, his brother came out to their parents a day ago but things didn't go so well. 

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They refuse to have anything to do with him anymore and disowned him. Not only that, they kicked him out of their house. He’s been staying with one of his friends. My parents refuse to change their minds no matter what, and knowing the traditions of the people around us where we came from, I do not think they ever will, shared the Redditor, adding, In response, I told my parents I will no longer be financially supporting them. I’ve contacted some apartment companies and have decided to move out with my brother. I make good money so I can afford a two-bedroom apartment for us no problem. While he didn't think it was that "controversial" a move the OP was taken aback when their relatives "even those in America" began "blowing up my phone telling me I am an asshole for cutting off my elderly parents during a pandemic."

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My response is they kicked my brother out during a pandemic. I’m not leaving him on the streets no matter what, but even more so during a pandemic. So Reddit, am I the asshole? he concluded. User abbieno shared: NTA ! if they can kick your 16 year old brother out during a pandemic, you can get out of there too. It’s not like you’re kicking them out of their home, you’re just leaving. They couldn’t expect you to live with them and support them forever, especially if they’re going to pick and choose when their own children deserve their love. Another farmerdoo suggested: I’d offer them some cash in exchange for legal custody of your brother and all of his paperwork. They can make your brothers life very hard if they refuse to give up his birth certificate, ss card, medical power, etc.

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