Writing on Reddit, he said the child had features that resembled those of the man his wife had had an affair with at work.
While being a dad might be one of the happiest occasions in a man's life, one father recounted on Reddit his dilemma when his child was born. He was suspicious the child was not his and asked his wife for a paternity test. His wife was obviously offended and said she felt "insulted" and assured him the child was his. But she went a step further and said if he got the test done it would be the end of their marriage which caused the husband to be even more suspicious. The man wrote: I am convinced that my wife's son is not mine. I believe that her "work husband" as she called him is the actual father. Ever since the baby was born three months ago, I've had these thoughts brewing. I told my wife last night that I wanted a paternity test, and she said, "I know that the test will come back with you as the father, but if you get one consider our marriage over."
There were many reasons the man suspected something was fishy. For one, his wife was having an affair a few months after she announced she was pregnant. But what aroused this feeling the most was the child's physical features which he said was similar to his wife's "work-husband": I have small blue eyes, pale skin, and blond hair- as do my parents, grandparents, and siblings. My wife has small blue eyes and red hair- everyone in her family has either blue eyes and blond or red hair. Yet, our baby was born with an olive skin tone, and huge brown eyes. You know who else has huge brown eyes and an olive skin tone? Her so called "work husband." The man wrote his co-worker told him about the affair. His wife worked in the same place as his wife. There had been rumors of an affair in the office.
The man wrote: They were getting unnaturally close, spending time together alone even though they don't directly work together, and the way they were interacting with each other was causing rumors to spread throughout their office. His wife, knowing that he knew me, wanted to warn me that something may be up. When he confronted his wife about the affair she brushed it aside and said it was "Just someone that she could trust and "be herself" with at work unlike everyone else." He then told her he was "extremely uncomfortable" with their relationship and to spend a little less time together which she agreed to. After his wife told him she was pregnant he was over the moon. At the baby shower, he got to meet his wife's "work husband" and "got a good look of his appearance." At the time of his child's birth, he didn't feel the fuzzy feeling that new dads get.
He wrote: Yet despite always wanting to be a dad, when the baby was born, I didn't feel a connection to him. The first time he was put in my arms, I expected to be overtaken with emotions the way I'd always heard I would. It makes me feel like a jerk to say it, but I just felt kind of empty instead. I chucked it up to nerves/not being able to be in the room when he was born. As the baby grew his concerns and suspicions just became bigger. He wrote: I've noticed how little he looks like myself and my wife. His skin and hair have gotten darker, the nose doesn't seem to match either of ours, and he even has a cleft chin when no one in my family does and none on my wife's come to mind that do either. Seeing him age has just further has just given me more doubts..