It's not like his roommate found out through someone else. Also, the peanut butter had a label on it, clearly indicating that it belonged to him.
Sharing space is quite tricky and often requires us to draw some boundaries. A young man recently faced an issue that has apparently divided the home he lives in, a space that he shares with four other guys. He took to Reddit to share the issue, anonymously, so he could get some clarity on the issue with the help of Redditors. He started off by saying he requires assistance for something that has apparently divided the house into two groups. I'm looking for some assistance determining whether I am the asshole in this situation that has divided our house into two groups.
If it was a “you can break it occasionally if you want” policy that’d be different-I’ve lived in some places where it was mutually considered ok to grab some peanut butter from the other person if you didn’t start doing it constantly-but if it’s an airtight policy, oh well, NTA.— Laura Dorwart, Ph.D. (@laurawritesit) December 1, 2019
He then gives the readers a small background into his life. I (20M) am a college student living with four other guys my age. It's our second year living together, and last year we had an issue with people eating food that isn't theirs, so now we have a strict "label your stuff and only eat things with your name on it" policy." That's basically how most people deal with their space, especially when it comes to food. If it has your name on it, no one else is supposed to take it.
I’m confused by the intent of the peanut butter. Did he intend to use the remaining PB in the jar strictly as sex butter? Or was the intent to use it as it as food grade PB even though he’d stuck his penis in it?— Jennifer (@509RhymeAnimal) November 30, 2019
People live far more interesting lives than I, that’s for sure.
My girlfriend and I like to get a bit frisky in the bedroom, and a few nights ago I dipped my penis in peanut butter and she licked it off. Yes, I understand that it is slightly bizarre, but that's how we roll. The controversy is that since we have a mouse problem I did not want to leave the peanut butter in my bedroom, so afterwards I closed it and returned it to my kitchen cupboard. Note that it had a huge "PeanutButterDilemma" label on it, so it was clear that it belonged to me." He only used what was labeled his and what he does with his stuff is his business, isn't it?
Saw the notification for this, & read the title and instantly said, "God, I hope so." Read it, and, well, dude did break the rule of the house, and just got some reallyyyy bad instant karma. Oof. NTA, but dude, just throw the jar out next time. Why keep it?— Bailey🏳️🌈🎄⛄🎅🦌 (@nerdybayy) November 30, 2019
However, it seems like he did not think of a situation where someone else would use his stuff. One of my roommates tells me yesterday "oh by the way, I had some of your peanut butter". He sees my visibly shocked reaction and asks what's up, so ultimately I come clean about the whole deal. He's furious and says "why the fuck would you put it back in the kitchen". I remind him of the mouse situation and our policy not to have other people's labeled foods. I appreciate the fact that he was honest about it. He could have easily hidden it from his roommate.
Sure a small amount of peanut butter is no big deal. But if you want to use some of someone else's stuff you should ask first, he didn't so that is his own fault completely.— Alicia (@A2Rue1) November 30, 2019
This is the first time all year that somebody has had my labeled food and informed me after the fact. He said it was just some peanut butter on his bread, it's not like he was taking full chicken breasts from me. My house is split 3:2 on who is in the wrong, and it's spilling over into other aspects of our living situation. We need to get over this pronto so I am asking... AITA?
INFO: We have sort of divvied up cupboards, so it was kept in "my" space. It wasn't in a communal cupboard.
It's quite unsanitary that the man left the peanut butter back in the kitchen, but also unwanted of his roommate to use something that wasn't his, to begin with. Basically, everyone is wrong here, and that was the final conclusion that Redditors came to, too.
what i don’t understand is why this dude couldn’t just like, scoop out some peanut butter with a knife and apply it like a normal person rather than just sticking his whole dickmeat into a jar of peanut butter— ＊*•̩̩͙✩•̩̩͙*˚are you nafty?˚*•̩̩͙✩•̩̩͙*˚＊ (@TeamKarasu) November 30, 2019