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Madonna Opens Up About How Technology 'Ended' Her Relationship With Her Kids

Madonna Opens Up About How Technology 'Ended' Her Relationship With Her Kids

The singer blamed mobile phones for her faulty relationship with her kids. She stated giving them phones at 13 was a bad decision.

Family is everything and as a parent, you want your kids to have everything in the world. Most people love to pamper their children and fulfill all their wishes (at least those that are possible). However, we don't always properly estimate the consequences of said wish fulfillment. Pop singer Madonna recently opened up about how giving her children mobile phones when they were just 13 was probably one such parenting mistakes. As reported by The Guardian, the pop megastar revealed that her children's lives became dominated by technology, a situation a lot of parents can relate to. The children have been completely absorbed in technology ever since they were introduced to it and keeping them on track was a huge task. 

This issue is commonplace among teenagers. They start to slowly drift away from their parents because they are always hanging out with their friends and are up to something or the other. Giving them phones just when they entered their teens only made things worse for the singer, as it had done for several other parents. The singer complained about how she started to lose touch with her children after giving them mobile phones at a relatively young age, to the extent that she then prevented her 13-year-old son from having one.



 

 

“I made a mistake when I gave my older children phones when they were 13,” said the mother of six, who has previously talked about feeling like “Billy-no-mates” while living in Lisbon in Portugal, where she said she spent most of her time doing the school run or driving her youngest son to football matches. During an interview with Vogue magazine, the singer said, "It ended my relationship with [my children], really. Not completely, but it became a very, very big part of their lives. They became too inundated with imagery and started to compare themselves to other people, and that’s really bad for self-growth."



 

 

Madonna began feeling distant from her children and noticed this happened only after she bought them mobile phones. Learning from her previous mistake, she decided to refrain from giving her adopted son David a mobile phone at the moment. Even though he is 13 years old the singer said she wanted to wait a while before giving him a phone. “He’s the one I have the most in common with. I feel like he gets me,” Madonna said of the teenager, who is part of the youth academy at Benfica football club in Lisbon.



 

 

She was somewhat more critical of her 22-year-old daughter, Lourdes (who goes by the nickname Lola); for whom social media was an issue, she said. “She doesn’t have the same drive [as me] – and again, I feel social media plagues her and makes her feel like: ‘People are going to give me things because I’m [Madonna’s] daughter.’ I try to give her examples of other children of celebrities who have to work through that ‘Oh yeah, you’re the daughter of … ’ and then eventually you are taken seriously for what you do.”



 

 

The 60-year-old singer mentioned that David has the same work ethic as she does. “What he has more than anything are focus and determination,” Madonna continues. “I’m pretty sure he got it from me. He’s the one I have the most in common with. I feel like he gets me; he has more of my DNA than any of my children so far. Let’s see what happens – it’s still early days for everyone.”

She then went on to talk about 22-year-old Lola. The singer maintained that her daughter “is insanely talented. I’m green with envy because she’s incredible at everything she does – she’s an incredible dancer, she’s a great actress, she plays the piano beautifully, she’s way better than me in the talent department. But she doesn’t have the same drive, and again, I feel social media plagues her and makes her feel like, ‘People are going to give me things because I’m her daughter.’ I try to give her examples of other children of celebrities like Zoë Kravitz, for instance, who have to work through that ‘Oh yeah, you’re the daughter of…’ – and then eventually you are taken seriously for what you do. You just have to keep going. But does she have the same drive that I have? No. But she also has a mother, and I didn’t. She grew up with money, and I didn’t. So everything is going to be different. But what can I do? I can’t fixate on it. I just have to do my best.”



 

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