The ace Hollywood star spoke about losing his wife of 28 years in a recent interview with 'Esquire' Spain.
There's no feeling comparable to losing a life-long partner. Hollywood star John Travolta is all too familiar with it. In July 2020, the actor lost Kelly Preston, his wife of 28 years, to breast cancer. Recently, he opened up to Esquire Spain about his tryst with grief in an exhaustive interview. "I learned that crying and mourning over someone is something personal," Travolta said. "Mourning is individual and experiencing your own journey is what can lead to healing. The most important thing you can do to help another when they are in mourning is to allow them to live it and not complicate it with yours," he continued, per Today.
John Travolta opened up about his struggle with grief following the loss of his wife, Kelly Preston: "I felt so saturated with everyone's sadness that I didn't know what to do." 💔 pic.twitter.com/blPZw5N7gf— E! News (@enews) April 22, 2021
The Grease star acknowledged that he struggled to confront his true feelings because he was caught up dealing with other people's grief. "Even though it's great to have company, sometimes it becomes like you're helping them rather than putting yourself to work overcoming feelings of loss and grief," sharing that he felt overwhelmed with everyone else's sorrow and he wasn't sure what he should do. "The first thing you should do when you experience grief is to go to a place where you can mourn, without any interference," he said. That's when he decided to share his nuggets of wisdom on how to go about mourning, according to Good Morning America.
John Travolta's candor about his grief and mourning following Kelly Preston's death is absolutely heartbreaking. https://t.co/xVW8PHd9eE— Perez Hilton (@PerezHilton) April 22, 2021
"The most important thing you can do to help another when they are in mourning is allow them to live it and not complicate it with yours." He reflected: "Let's say you lose someone and at the funeral you are very sad, then another person approaches you who is feeling more sadder and doesn't leave enough space for you to mourn. It would be like two boats plummeting to the bottom. That is my experience."
Travolta and Preston met on the sets of The Experts in 1989 and married two years later in 1991. They shared three children together: 21-year-old Ella, 10-year-old Benjamin, and Jett, who passed away at the age of 16 in 2009. His focus is now on ensuring the future of his children, as he wants to help his eldest pursue a career in acting by "teaching her to work in the profession" while helping Ben "evolve."
During the interview, Travolta also recalled the time he danced with Princess Diana in 1985 during her first-ever official visit to the United States with her husband Prince Charles. The Pulp Fiction actor referred to that as being a "magical moment" and noting that it was a "great privilege and honor" to dance with her to one of his hit numbers. While he was a heartthrob back then, he admitted to being nervous and mustering the courage to ask Diana for a dance. This was not in reference to the dance itself but the mere presence of Diana would intimidate even the most confident of men. "That was the easy part," he said of the dance, per Today, "but introducing myself to Diana in the proper way, conveying confidence, and asking her to be my dance partner was a complicated mission."
Recounting the memory in detail, he painted a vivid picture of the exchange that has dominated pop culture even after 35 years: "Think of the moment. We are in the White House. It's midnight. The whole scene is like a dream. I go up to her, touch her on the shoulder, ask her to dance. She turns around and when she sees me, she displays that captivating smile, somewhat sad, and accepts my invitation. There we were, dancing together like in a fairy tale. Who could imagine that something like this is going to happen to you one day? I was smart enough to register it in my memory as a very special, magical moment."