Before making their divorce public, Garner ensured that Affleck was in the right headspace, and waited patiently for him to get there.
When two people decide to end their marriage it isn't always due to the lack of love in their relationship. Sometimes things just don't turn out the way one would have hoped for, but this does not mean they have stopped caring for each other. When Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck decided to go their separate ways, their divorce came as a shock for every fan who had been shipping them. Even Garner did not want something like this to happen for the sake of her family, especially her kids.
"I would not have chosen this life for myself or for my kids. I would not choose to be single or be in this position. It’s something that we are working through. I haven’t been on a date and I am not interested in dating," confessed Garner during an interview with news.com.au. "People want to set me up and I am just like, 'No thank you!" The star couple announced their plans to separate a day after their 10th wedding anniversary. When asked if she would choose to do it all over again, given a second chance, Garner didn't hesitate to say that she indeed would.
"I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him," Garner told Vanity Fair. "And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had." And even after the duo decided to part ways, they simply couldn't turn off the love they had for each other. "He’s the love of my life," continued Garner. "What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow."
Despite making the announcement regarding their painful separation public, Garner, who still cared deeply for the father of her children, decided to wait for Affleck to get into the right headspace before legalizing their divorce. While Affleck began battling his alcohol addiction, his wife patiently waited until he was completely healed. "He’s focused on being there for those in his life," informed a close source while speaking to US Weekly. Back in 2018, a source revealed, "Jen wanted to give Ben the time and opportunity to work on his health and sobriety … she isn’t in a rush. Jen just isn’t willing to settle the custody issues until she’s 100 percent certain that he’s clean. She’ll wait for him to prove he is taking it very seriously."
"He is very appreciative of Jen being so supportive and giving him a chance to get better. She has always been there for him and continues to be," revealed an insider according to US Weekly. After they finalized their divorce in November 2018, the focused on co-parenting their three kids, Violet, Seraphina, and Sam, who has always been their first priority. Despite all the problems and hard times, they still shared an unbreakable bond. "We still have to help each other get through this. He’s still the only person who really knows the truth about things. And I’m still the only person that knows some of his truths," admitted Garner.
As for Affleck, he too cherished the connection he has with Garner even after their divorce. During an interview with Today, when Hoda Kotb told Affleck, "You can tell you still love her," he immediately responded to it saying, "Of course, she’s wonderful. Somebody’s the mother of your kids, they’re going to be the most important, central person in your life, and that’s good," reported HuffPost. Although their marriage has ended, it hasn't stopped Affleck from gushing over his Garner and talking about his role as a father. "I hope I’m a pretty good dad. I certainly try very hard. I’m lucky they’ve got a great mom, and she helps out a great deal with making sure that we co-parent in as good a way as possible. It’s what makes me happy and the rest of the stuff kind of follows," he added.
Both Garner and Affleck make it a point to spend every holiday together and "they typically go to church as a family," said a source. Affleck simply cannot forget the significance Garner had in his life. From helping him during a very difficult phase of his life, she has always been the pillar of strength for him. And expressing the same, he reportedly wrote in a Facebook post, I’m lucky to have the love of my family and friends, including my co-parent, Jen, who has supported me and cared for our kids as I’ve done the work I set out to do.