A Redditor found themselves isolated when none of the other users agreed with their decision.
No matter how much you disagree with your parents, there comes a point when you realize that they always want what's best for you. Unfortunately, that's not always how it is perceived every time. Recently, a Reddit user took to the AmItheAsshole subreddit and shared their concerns about the person her daughter was getting married to. After doing a bit of snooping, user throwaway474679 found out that her daughter's fiancé is actually her fifth cousin. My daughter is planning on getting married very soon. However, I found out last week upon doing research on our family tree that my daughter's fiancé is her fifth cousin, the user wrote.
After some initial hesitation, the parent decided to come clean—however, the revelation backfired. I initially didn't know how to break this news to her, but I finally did several days ago. My daughter apparently thought that this is perfectly fine and that she's still going to marry him anyway, the post continued reading. Hoping to persuade their daughter from marrying a relative, the Redditor decided to withdraw an important role they had in this wedding. I told her that I don't approve of this marriage and that even though I initially agreed to pay for this wedding, I will not be paying for it if she decides to go through with it, continued throwaway474679.
This tactic didn't sit well with the daughter who ended up cutting all ties with her parent. We got into a huge fight, which ended with her telling me that she's cutting me out of her life. I honestly don't know what to do. I just don't want my daughter to marry her friggin cousin, concluded the post. Soon thousands of users flooded the comment section with their verdict and most of them held the parent responsible for overreacting to this whole situation. One Redditor named gracieparker agreed that the original poster was the assh**e in the entire situation. She wrote: YTA you agreed to help pay for the wedding. 5th cousin is basically nothing and they were already in love and getting married super soon before finding this out. Were you looking for a reason not to like her fiancé or something? Sounds like it.
Another user togostarman, shared the same views and didn' hesitate to point out that the throwaway474679 was simply looking for a way to rid of the future son-in-law. LMAO, this is so hilarious honestly and OP is treating it SO seriously. Imagine going up to your daughter, who's about to get married and saying, "sit down sweetie, I have to tell you something. We all have to be strong here. * deep breath * it turns out Jeffrey is... Well, he's * sobs * an extremely distant relation much like the rest of the populace! I'm so sorry to be the one to break this to you." Obviously mom just hates the fiance and is desperately looking for an out, shared togostarman.
One of my friends once said the rule of thumb is if someone shows up at the wedding and doesn’t know which side of the aisle to sit on, it’s too close. Since no one even knew they were related til OP did some heavy research, doubt that is a problem so they’re good, explained another who didn't think marrying 5th cousin is that big of a deal. Pretty sure if 5th cousins was against the rules, half of rural America wouldn’t be able to get married because people stay around where they’re from and most everyone is related if you dig down the line enough. If you’re really that worried OP, get a consultation from a doctor to see if it’s actually a health risk. Otherwise, keep your promise to your daughter. Many pointed out that 5th cousins "only share 0.05% of their DNA" which they considered "almost literally nothing." Others hoped that "this is one of the rare cases where the OP realizes 'damn... I AM the asshole, I’m going to go make things right with my daughter.'"