The woman's mother-in-law "specifically said that she would give her life for her children" and that the woman was a selfish, cold-hearted bitch.
Pregnancy is a difficult journey filled with peaks and valleys. It comes with a lot of risks and complications. According to CDC, Since the Pregnancy Mortality Surveillance System was implemented (1987), the number of reported pregnancy-related deaths in the United States steadily increased from 7.2 deaths per 100,000 live births in 1987 to 16.9 deaths per 100,000 live births in 2016. This shows that the mortality rate for pregnant women is at an all-time high. A woman took to Reddit to share how she had to make a rather difficult decision of choosing between her life or that of her unborn child during her pregnancy.
She took to Reddit to share her story. She shared that despite their efforts to not get pregnant, they found out that she was expecting. However, they decided to keep the baby. After confirming that I was pregnant (took a pregnancy test after days of morning sickness), we decided to keep the baby, as we both has stable incomes and a house that has a few extra rooms. The woman, 27, shared that she had an okay pregnancy, and when it was time to give birth to their baby, it was just her and her husband, 28. My husband was the only one in the room with me due to hospital restrictions, but we were excited and nervous for the birth of our first child. (We were having a baby boy!)
The excitement soon died because of complications during the birth. The woman was then faced with the difficult decision of having to choose between her life and her child's. I, terrified for my life, told the nurses to fix the complication first (it's very rare) and then try to save the baby. It wasn't easy for her after the decision she made. I had to undergo emergency surgery, but in doing so, resulted in the loss of my beautiful baby. In the moment, my husband and I were both okay with my decision and grateful that I survived, but upset over the loss of our child. Her parents comforted her when they told them about what happened, but she couldn't say the same for the way her husband's parents reacted.
While her parents helped the couple through the grieving process, his parents were furious. They said that I was a horrible woman and was a terrible mother for letting my child die. His mother specifically said that she would give her life for her children and that I was a selfish, cold-hearted bitch. This affected her, but what was even worse was the fact that her husband was starting to feel the same way about her as his parents. This made me feel even worse about my choice and I became very depressed. During this time, my husband began to turn on me and said that he wasn't sure if he wanted to create a family with someone who didn't care about her children.
He says that what I did was selfish and that he doesn't trust me anymore. I feel so alone, even with the support of my family. I was talking to one of my friends about this and she said that they are all being awful, but I'm not so sure anymore. Redditors were furious at the way the woman's in-laws treated her, especially after experiencing such a devastating loss. One user shared: Honestly I am so sorry you had to go through this and I am sorry for your loss. But choosing to save your own life is in no way a bad choice. And if your husband would rather you had died giving birth, I think you should seriously reconsider your marriage.
Another person added: I would never again associate with her husband and his disgusting family even if they were the last people on earth. In the apocalypse, I'll be flamboyantly dunking the last roll of toilet paper into my shopping cart under their noses- I mean, blood-sucking proboscises. Without a doubt, I'm slamming the bunker door right into their rat-faced, micrognathic, shocked Pikachu faces and I'll smile while I'm doing it. Of course, no offense meant to rats, who arguably possess more of a shred of humanity and decency than these pathetic excuses for knuckle-dragging, quasi-sentient meatbags.