In a classic case of the teenage dilemma of showing confidence in their parents, this girl is unable to tell them that she got raped by her boyfriend.
Being young and in love is exhilarating, especially if you think you've found the love of your life. You will meet a few toads along the way before you find your prince charming. They are not worth your time and attention. Some people don't even value you enough to respect your wishes and this story shared on Reddit by a 16-year-old girl will make you wonder why such people exist. It'll make you wonder why parents don't emphasize the importance of consent and to teach them it's important to BACK OFF when someone says no. They need to know that no means no and forcing yourself on someone is not the answer to heal your bruised ego.
"So basically my parents went out of town and I told my boyfriend to come over so we drank a little (we’re underage but his brother bought us wine coolers and beer since we’re not even that young) and we were hanging out and it was chill and basically he wanted to have sex and I said no because I feel like I'm too young and not ready for it at all like maybe in college or something but not now." Everyone has their own priorities. Some want to wait for a while before they engage in consensual sex, some don't.
"IDK it’s kinda dumb but I wanted to do it after I was with someone for a long time and my boyfriend and I have only been together for a year. but I told him to just relax and stop and he like told me to stop acting like a bitch, which he never said to me before. I didn’t know he was gonna do it like if I knew I would have gotten up or something before but I didn’t think he was being serious and by the time I realized like oh he’s really not listening to me, he was already holding me down and I couldn’t get up."
She wanted to push him off because he didn't seem to understand that she doesn't want to do it. "Like, I tried but I'm too fucking skinny it sucks. can’t believe I used to like being skinny and it didn’t matter before but my body fucking failed me. people, you are not as strong as you think. I thought I could push him off but I couldn’t and I did try. then he slept over and left in the morning. It’s so dumb but I can’t stop thinking about it. Like I always imagined it to be different like gentle and loving and that was so bad."
"Also, my fucking cat was just laying on my floor and I tried looking at her and doing mind telepathy or something like to scratch him so he’d stop and that bitch hits everyone except that was the only time she decided to be calm. like bitch really. Just my luck. After he left, I texted him and asked him if we could talk and he was just like “ok ill talk to you in school” and he didn’t even come to school today. So I asked him why and he said he was feeling depressed and he needed a mental health day so he stayed home and spent time with his little sister."
"I haven’t talked to him yet and I hate this. I feel so embarrassed and like everyone can see me naked or something even though I'm wearing a million layers. I feel so embarrassed in front of my parents. They always told me to not invite guys over and they trusted me and they were right. I should have listened to them. They’d be so mad if I tell them he was over and we were drinking. I wanna tell my mom but I'm so scared she’s gonna be mad at me."
It's hard to confide in your parents at this age because you're worried about how they're going to react, especially in this case, because she was forbidden from inviting boys over. "She always does tough love and she’s not even the type to comfort me and tell me it’s ok and stuff. she’ll be like oh well you deserve it. I have midterms coming up and now I can’t stop thinking about this. I don’t wanna report him because I'm scared and he can just say that I wanted to because they can’t even prove it there wasn’t a camera or anything and all our friends and people at school are gonna say shit about me. I just feel so anxious I don’t know what to do."