"The weight slowly but surely started to come off and I was back down to 130 lbs by the end of the six months. My husband was happy and things looked like they would be okay."
There are several kinds of people in the world, and you come across different kinds of them. When you fall in love, you tend to see only the positive side of someone, but when you begin to live with them, you see all the true colors. Someone people can surprise you with just how nice they can be, while some surprise you with the way they turn out to be. This is the story of a woman who had to deal with her husband and his judgment and ultimatums, all because she gained 30 lbs during her pregnancy. It's quite natural that people gain weight during their pregnancy and the story of this woman is no different. However, things took an ugly turn, and she's shared the entire story on Reddit.
They had a whirlwind romance and he proposed. She was over the moon and she said yes. A year into our marriage, I became pregnant with our son and gained about 30 lbs. I was 5'3" 125 lbs before the baby and 155 lbs after the baby. I still fit into the same clothing sizes so I didn't think I had gained too much weight and that it would come off with breastfeeding and some more exercise. After the baby, my husband started pressuring me to lose weight. He said that his friends were making comments about how fat I had gotten and that he was not as attracted to me as he was before I had the baby.
He gave me an ultimatum that I either would have to lose the 30 lbs in six months or he would leave me. I was very upset about the demand, but I didn't want to lose him so I tried my hardest to lose the weight. She did everything she could to lose the extra weight because she did not want to disappoint the love of her life. Every day for months I would wake up and go to hot yoga for 90 minutes. After I got home from work, I would run or do some bodyweight exercises. I tried to keep my calorie count below 1200 so that I would lose 2 or more lbs per week. The weight slowly but surely started to come off and I was back down to 130 lbs by the end of the six months. My husband was happy and things looked like they would be okay.
But once she lost weight, there were other problems to tackle. After I lost the weight, I noticed a shift in the attitude of my husband's friends. Most of them are perfectly nice guys, but a few of them are absolute pieces of shit (the same ones who called me fat). Once I returned to my old weight, these friends started to make comments about me and how sexy I was. I told my husband to make them stop and he said that he would speak with them, but the rude comments never stopped. I channeled all of my frustrations into working out and I lost an additional 15 lbs of body fat and got more toned.
Then, the unexpected happened, and how the tables turned. She wrote: This past weekend, my husband's friends were over at the house and one of them grabbed me and tried to grope me. I told my husband and even though he was angry at his friend, he was still angry at me. My husband said that I was leading his friends on by losing so much weight and that I was trying to make myself skinny so that I could cheat on him. I was disgusted by this accusation and packed my bags and left for my mom's house.
Soon after, the woman did write that her husband called her back and apologized for everything and told her it was all his fault, but somehow, she doesn't know what to do. She said she loved him but did not know if she should go back to him because he was the one who made her lose all the weight and now had accused her of wanting to cheat on him. Several people commented on the woman's post, telling her that she should do what she felt was right, but also, "you are the company you keep", so if her husband's friends were shitty, chances were, he was one of them, too. But if he is someone who's love and respect for you fluctuates with weight, then it's best to not go back to him!