It is a rare privilege to find yourself and live life as the best version of who you really are. Here's how to tell if you're close to getting there:
Life's many twists and turns can sometimes spark a true metamorphosis of the soul. While it does come with growing pains, it is entirely worth it to see your true best self soar towards promise and purpose. For some, growth happens little at a time, slowly chiseling away your insecurities and anxieties when nobody is watching, not even you. While for others, growth can happen all at once - more often than not, following a major life-incident. However, when it chooses to seep into your life, growth comes as a welcome salve to old wounds, almost entirely erasing the pain of the past. Emotional evolution opens up a whole new world and a far more exciting journey. If you're doing it right, the people closest to you will feel it too. As frightening as the idea of wading in unfamiliar waters may be, there is nothing more tragic than a life spent safely tethered to the shores of complacency. Growth is a choice we make. It happens when we allow our hearts to open to the changes that are knocking at the door. If you're brave enough to hop on the rocky ride that it can be, somewhere along that journey, you will find the best version of yourself. And here's how you know, that you're close to being who you are meant to be:
You find yourself getting increasingly comfortable with life's imperfections. You realize that everything is not going to work out all the time, and that's okay. It stems from a place of knowing that life offers many doors of opportunity, most of which swing open if you choose to persevere. The deafening sound of self-doubt no longer lingers in your mind, making room for more constructive thoughts and new dreams to take root. You begin to notice that this new-found fearlessness inspires you to reach for the things you really want, instead of covering in the shadows 'what-ifs?' and worries.
You begin to look at the world and even yourself with fresh eyes. It helps you break free from the limiting mold of your old life and chase after new and exciting experiences. It could be anything from picking up a new hobby, to breaking old habits or even rethinking your whole career choice and being brave enough to start over. You find that happiness is your motivator. Not approval. You learn that the heart can do more than just feel. It can help you think and make decisions too. You discover that life is so much richer when both your head and your heart are in it.
You are curious about who you are, and discover that you'd rather find out for yourself than have someone else tell you. Alone time is no longer spent picking at your flaws or gasping for air in a tornado of overwhelming thoughts and emotions. Instead, you learn to listen for your voice and let it be the loudest one in your head. Reflection, introspection, and affirmation become your companions in solitude, and you find that you quite enjoy your time with them. You are far kinder to yourself now that you know who you are a little better.
You have a clear sense of what makes you happy and what does not. This pushes you to take a more active interest in leading a well-balanced life. Instead of people making plans for you and you tagging along, you find yourself changing the equation and taking charge of how you spend your waking hours through the week. Soon enough you find that this simple change has stripped your life of worry and eased so much unnecessary mental and emotional burden. Looking at your schedule is no longer the fastest way to bring on a panic attack.
One by one, the excuses that have always held you back begin to sound sillier and sillier until being controlled by them no longer feels like an option. The more things you get done, the more things you find yourself wanting to do. You realize how much more productive you are and how much you enjoy seeing your plans through. Waiting around for the perfect time, the perfect mood, the perfect company, the perfect anything reveals itself as the obstacle it is when it comes to chasing after a fulfilling life.
Monday morning blues are a thing of the past. You find yourself grateful to be alive instead of rueing the day you were birthed into existence without permission. Each day begins to feel like an opportunity to live a little better than you did the day before. You no longer want to float through life aimlessly, but want to fill it with the best of everything - whether it's people, places or even things. Stress is a distant memory, as you chose to dwell in the positives. Peace follows you to bed each night and wakes up with you in the morning because you have begun to live with intent and purpose.