It's always good to have someone you can count on and let all your feelings out. If you've got someone like that, hold them close, because they're hard to come by.
Let's be clear, life is a pain in the rear end and sometimes we need someone to vent so that we can talk to and let our feelings out, in the most explicit way. In life, a lot of things are underappreciated and we feel bad about that. When this happens, we feel sad, and sometimes a bit lonely. This, in turn, could affect your mental health when you keep it all bottled up, so that's when you need to have someone who's like-minded so that you can talk to them, and the best part is that they'll completely understand you, no judgments passed. It totally helps to have a person you let all your pent up frustration out to.
Well, apparently, there's a term for it, and it makes quite a lot of sense if you think about it now. According to Smartparenting, these people are known as "vent buddies" and they are your friends you go to bitch about anything and everything under the sun. A study was conducted keeping new moms in mind. The thing is, when you have a child, your life changes completely. Your baby is the center of your world and you spend all your time with and for the baby.
Because of this, your friendships can take a backseat at times. When you find someone else in a similar situation, you can talk to them about your problems and they get you because they're probably going through the same things in life. You both get to vent to one another about life and it actually has a lot of benefits. Not only is this person good for your own sanity, but your child’s brain development as well, and there is science to back it up.
According to a new study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, having a circle of friends is beneficial for baby’s brain development. For the study, 1082 mother-child pairs in the U.S. were studied. They were questioned about their family structure, friendships, and relationships in their communities. They also studied their toddler’s cognitive assessments which were done when the kids were 2 years old.
The study found that people who have a supportive group of friends, which is around three to four friends outside of the family whom they can actually rely on for help, and who have toddlers, did well in the cognitive test. Basically, when moms have more people whom they could turn to for support, their toddler’s cognitive test scores would change and even go higher. The more people you can count on, the lesser problems you'll have in life.
“Outside the family context, mothers with larger social networks may be able to draw on resources from those networks that alleviate some of the burdens associated with parenting,” Kaja LeWinn, a psychiatry researcher at the University of California in San Francisco and one of the study’s authors, told Reuters. This includes both emotional as well as tangible support.
When a mom has another friend/mom they can count on, it might “reduce parenting stress and improve maternal health, both of which are positively associated with child cognitive development,” adds LeWinn. So, if you don't have an official buddy to vent about all your life problems, then it's high time you find one. Also, from time to time, tell them that you love and appreciate them because they keep you sane, after all.