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Fiancé Forbids Partner From Masturbating, Threatens To End Relationship If She Doesn't Comply

Fiancé Forbids Partner From Masturbating, Threatens To End Relationship If She Doesn't Comply

The 29-year-old fiancé of this 24-year-old woman says she should rely on him to satisfy herself and shouldn't indulge in the act by herself.

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A successful relationship always hinges on a healthy sex life where both partners are allowed enough room to explore their kinks while still being respectful of the boundaries. However, things can get extremely ugly when either of them tries to limit the other from indulging in a perfectly safe act, just because they want to. That's the story of this 24-year-old woman, whose fiancé has forbidden her from masturbating.

A Reddit user, Idkwhattodo117, posted a question on the Relationship_Advice subreddit asking people what she could do in this situation. In her post, she explained that she's been with her fiancé for a year-and-a-half and that he thinks masturbating is morally wrong. She also said that he knows that she doesn't share the same beliefs and that she respects them. Narrating the crux of the problem, she wrote: "Recently he told me he does not want me to masturbate and that he can not continue the relationship unless I promise him I will not." Although the OP said it's not something she does with any "type of frequency", she firmly believes that the fiancé does not have the right to tell her what she should do with her body.

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She added that he was trying to be controlling, "and that he wanted to make it so that only he could touch my body, not even myself." She continued: "He then said that I do not love him and do not care about him because I would not agree to this request. He let me know if I felt the urge he would be happy to help me out." The whole exchange left her uncomfortable, and she felt he was being "insecure, controlling, and manipulative." She also revealed that he even had opinions on her wearing certain outfits: "He has commented that some of my outfits are to get attention and he does [not] want other men looking at me when I am at clubs or bars with friends. Which I would get, but I do not think I dress inappropriately."

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Naturally, a vast majority of the comment section agreed with her assessment with many giving an outsider analysis of her situation. Shekhina11 wrote: "In what religion is masturbation unacceptable, but premarital sex is allowed? That doesn't even make sense. He's using that as an excuse to control you." QuarantineWolf had some of the choicest words to use for the situation. "GREAT point. Please listen to this- if he were basing this on religious views, we could disagree with him, we could call it a deal-breaker, but it would at least be a position that merited some sort of respect or consideration," before going on to call him a "controlling, bullying, disgusting, useless, lying, hypocritical, pointless, worthless sack of sh*t."

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Chipjack also shared their views on the topic and compared masturbation to the act of "scratching your leg when it itches." They then said the fiancé is trying to own the OP's sexuality. "He doesn't want you to masturbate. He doesn't want you to wear clothing that might attract male attention," the user wrote. They also offered several relationship red flags that she may notice in the future, if not already: "Has the part about you not having male friends come up yet? Has he gotten to the bit where you have to quit working at your job because there are guys there? What about the point where he keeps you from working entirely, so that you're dependent on him for basic living expenses? Have you had the "you should be a stay at home mom" talk yet?" The user then proceeded to advise her to call off her engagement "while she still had to freedom to choose."

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