A Reddit user revealed that he decided to stop funding his daughter's college education as she gave him no valid reason after changing her major.
Obtaining a college degree these days is not a piece of cake and the younger generation can vouch for the financial burden that plagues their life. Amid worries of securing a proper well-paying job given the current dismal state of the market, one can hardly overlook the enormous amount of college debt that looms over them for most of their adult lives despite having the access to numerous student loan programs in the country.
Now, for kids whose parents are willing to take care of the tuition fees, it's definitely a boon and something to be rather grateful for. Sadly, the daughter of one such father took his generous support for granted and is now on the verge of losing her financial funding.
Taking to Reddit, the father who goes by the Reddit name u/DoomedDOOMED23 shared his predicament. My daughter is currently a freshman in college. She has just started her first semester and I'm the one paying the bill. I have been saving for over 10 years to do this and I am happy to do it, as long as I feel she is actually setting herself up for success, he wrote.
He explained how his daughter "fell in love with computers" and even took up several classes in programming and computer science in high school.
And when she declared her plans of majoring in the same, it didn't come as a surprise for this supportive father who gladly encouraged her to do so as he saw a good future in the tech industry.
The proud father who then took comfort in knowing that his daughter had indeed made a thoughtful decision about her future, was now completely shattered after his daughter paid him a visit.
Recalling that day, he wrote: This last week she was on fall break so she came to stay with me over the weekend after spending a few days at my ex's house. My daughter yesterday morning decided to casually drop that she's planning on changing majors. I was shocked by this and asked why and what she was changing to. She is planning on switching into the liberal arts program. Now I know the major is the go-to punching bag and it feels cliche, but I was honestly a little shocked by how casually she acted about this.
When the concerned father asked her about this drastic change of interest, she failed to provide any convincing answer. When I tried to get why she was switching all I got was that she all of the sudden hates computer science and has made multiple friends who are majoring in LA. Apparently she has been talking with the councilors up there as well and they along with her friends have all recommended she switch majors, he wrote.
The disgruntled father was taken aback after his daughter gave him the cold shoulder when he tried to question her decision about swapping her majors.
I tried to ask her the regular stuff "what about your future", "How do you plan to get a job", etc. And she decided to ignore me and tell me that it's none of my business and that she's an adult. This angered me. I'm the one paying for this I feel I have a right to know and not be blown off like that, he wrote.
After thinking about it, the disappointed father decided to end her financial backing. I thought over it all day and so last night I sat her down and told her that while yes, she is an adult. I am the one paying for her education and I won't be paying for her to get what is, in my opinion, a worthless degree. I told her if she doesn't want to do CS that's fine. But she needs to put more thought into the change and find something that she enjoys AND can get her a career. And if in the end, she decides that she's an "adult" and she wants to be a liberal arts major. She can pay for it like an adult should, with her own money, he added.
As expected things didn't go down too well with his daughter after communicating his decision with her. We fought and she left saying I'm trying to control her life with money and am being a major asshole. My ex called me up after and told me that I'm no better than a dictator right now and that I'm using her college fund ransom for her to do what I want, he revealed.
Concluding the post, he clarified that his problem wasn't with his daughter pursuing Liberal Arts but the fact that she was unable to provide a convincing answer to his questions about her future plans.
This money that I have saved is not a "gift". This is what I have saved for 10 years to make sure that she has opportunities that me my ex never had. This is my investment in her... Giving my daughter money for free, in my opinion, is the worst thing I could do for her right now. Supporting her as she makes a choice she has given me no justification for that will cost me thousands of dollars will kill me. And the fact that she seems to think that I am owed no explanation and that I should "mind my own business because she's an adult" is an insult to the investment I am making in her, he wrote, in conclusion, adding that he approached his daughter and offered to talk this out if she wished to.