It's hard to lose someone you love, but such signs make you believe that they are happy, wherever they are, and that's all you need to know!
It's never easy to get over the loss of a loved one. In all honesty, you never get over someone, you just get used to living without them. Dorothy Booth from Virginia passed away in her sleep at the age of 97 last month, and she left a really big void in the hearts of the people that loved her. But, not long after Booth's passing, her family who was devastated and grieving her loss suddenly encountered a mysterious visitor whose timing was perfect. They could not have come at a better time! Before Booth left them, her daughters Debbie and Jeanne had spoken about what lay beyond and even asking her to connect with them in whatever way possible, according to The Dodo.
"They talked many times with Grandma, lightheartedly, even jokingly," Angela Abbott Patteson, Booth's granddaughter-in-law, told The Dodo. "‘Hey when you get to heaven, see if you’re able to send a sign that you’re there and that you’re happy.’ She would say, ‘I’ll see what I can do!’ They said, ‘Send a cardinal!’ Because that was one of Grandma’s favorite birds." Little did they know that it was going to come true!
But the surprise visit makes Booth's family believe that she actually fulfilled their request! And so soon! Just the day after Booth's funeral, the entire family was gathered around to play her favorite card game in her honor. Patteson adds that it was around this time that everyone heard a noise coming from the kitchen. They all rushed to see where the noise came from, and sure enough, they got the surprise of their lifetime.
"My father-in-law went outside and saw it was a cardinal. It was just sitting there, completely alert and calm — nothing wrong with it," Patteson said. "He was able to approach it and pick it up. He brought it in the house. [Debbie and Jeanne] were just ecstatic. They were taking pictures and crying and saying, ‘Oh my gosh, it really happened!’" For them, every second they spent with the bird felt like they were reunited with Booth once again.
But, they decided to let it free, because they thought that would be better than to keep it captive. But it seemed like the visitor was in no hurry to leave at all. "They tried to release it, but the bird turned around and landed on her shoulder," Patteson said. "They were in sheer delight that that happened." They spent a little while longer with the bird before Booth's daughters finally placed the cardinal on a branch. The bird lingered there briefly before flying away.
"This has brought so much comfort to them, to have this prayer answered," Patteson said. While the visit from the cardinal may seem very random and a mere coincidence to an outsider, it was as if their prayers were answered by God, for Booth's daughters. "They knew that it was from God," Patteson said. "To have this happen has been so comforting. It’s really helped my mother-in-law and her sister. This was definitely an answer to prayers."
It's never easy to deal with the loss of a loved one, but the fact is that everyone deals with the loss in different ways. Talking to someone does help, but only if you're ready, and make sure you talk to someone who can help you. Also, it is completely okay to be vulnerable. No one is expecting you to act like the loss has not affected you. It's okay to take time to heal, you lost a loved one. Your friends will always be there for you if you let them. Shutting them out will not make it any better.
There is no hurry for you to heal. You are allowed to take your own time to get used to the void in your life, and no one can say otherwise. But, it's not okay to turn to alcohol or drugs to help you cope with the loss. It's going to get you nowhere. When you feel like nothing seems to be getting better, drop everything and book a ticket to someplace far away, where no one knows you, so that you can get away from people comforting you, and also take some time to heal properly, and cherish the memories you have with your loved one. It all gets better with time!