Her obituary is both sad and comforting at the same time. It is also a lesson for us to go through tough times with dignity.
A 38-year-old woman who died from cancer wrote her own obituary in 2012, and it's so beautiful, that it'll definitely change the way you look at life. When you're diagnosed with a terminal illness, you have two options, you can either sit around to mope about it and crib about how unfair life has been to you, or you could make the most of what you have. Sonia didn't waste her time stressing over the situation. Instead, she decided to write her own obituary because she just didn't like how it's usually written. According to the Lewiston Tribune, Sonia said they're written in a couple of different ways that she just doesn't care for.
Either family or friends gather together and list every minor accomplishment from cradle to grave in a timeline format, or they try to create one poetic last stanza about someone's life that is so glowing one would think the deceased had been the living embodiment of a deity. She went on to explain why she doesn't like the timeline format. I don't like the timeline format because let's face it, I never really accomplished anything of note. Other than giving birth to my two wonderful, lovable, witty and amazing sons (James and Jason), marrying my gracious, understanding and precious husband (Brian), and accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior - I have done very little. None of that requires obit space that I have to shell out money for.
Then again, she did not want her friends to sit around and write and obituary for her. I also didn't want a bunch of my friends sitting around writing a glowing report of me that we all know would be filled with fish tales, half-truths, impossible scenarios, and outright honest-to-goodness lies. I just don't like to put people in that kind of situation. She just wanted people to know the truth through her obituary.
The truth, or my version of it, is this: I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried. For all of my crazy comments, jokes, and complaints, I really did love people. The only thing that separates me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in. I didn't always do the right thing or say the right thing and when you come to the end of your life those are the things you really regret, the small simple things that hurt other people.
She really meant it when she said she wanted to tell people the truth. My life was not perfect and I encountered many, many bumps in the road. I would totally scrap the years of my life from age 16 to 20 ... OK, maybe from 14 to 22. I think that would eradicate most of my fashion disasters and hair missteps from the '80s. But mostly, I enjoyed life. Some parts of it were harder than others but I learned something from every bad situation and I couldn't do any more than that.
But, she still managed to see the bright side to death. Who would have thought someone could do that? Besides, there are some benefits to dying youngish. For example, I still owe on my student loans and the joke's on them cuz I'm not paying them. Plus, I am no longer afraid of serial killers, telemarketers, or the IRS. I don't have to worry about wrinkles or the ozone layer and/or hide from the news during election season.
Some folks told me that writing my own obituary was morbid, but I think it is great because I get a chance to say "thank you" to all the people who helped me along the way. Those that loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me, and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. That is what made my life worthwhile.
Finally, she had some golden words of advice for whoever wanted to remember her. If you think of me and would like to do something in honor of my memory, do this:
Volunteer at a school, church, or library. Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive impact on your life. If you smoke - quit. If you drink and drive - stop. Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams. Forgive someone who doesn't deserve it. Stop at all lemonade stands run by kids and brag about their product. Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so. These are all life lessons to follow so that when you die, you leave behind good memories.