Two days into the trip, the group came "close to losing our minds" as their "one friend was nitpicking and yelling at everyone for EVERYTHING."
Roadtrips are the best, especially when you're in the company of your closest friends. It is quite nice to embark upon an adventurous journey leaving behind all the worries and responsibilities for some time. But what one of your friends puts a damper on your mood? You can't really do anything about it, right? Well, Redditor PapaMoe1895 took to 'Am I The A**hole' (AITA) subsection to see if what they did in a similar situation was indeed the right thing to do or not. So around this time last year, me and a group of 3 friends had spent 6 months planning a road trip across the country, and we had just left. Of the 4 of us, 3 were having a great time, the post begins reading.
One of our friends is very irritable and says she has depression, anxiety, PTSD, and borderline personality disorder despite having never gone to a therapist or psychiatrist (she thinks psychiatry and therapy are shams). Initially, we didn’t want to invite her but she tends to get very upset when she gets left out. Before we left, we explained to her that we were not going to spend 3 weeks putting up with her outbursts and she needed to control them so we could all have fun. She made a fuss about it but eventually agreed, continued the Redditor who was 17 at the time.
Two days into the trip, the group came "close to losing our minds" as their "one friend was nitpicking and yelling at everyone for EVERYTHING, from the clothes we wore out in public because “we were embarrassing her”, eating or drinking water “too loudly”, all the way down to two different conversations going on at the same time because it was “too much noise” for her. She was the only one on the aux and refused to let anyone else have a turn, would smoke cigarettes in the RV no matter how many times I told her to wait until we pulled over, etc."
This is when the OP and his friends reminded her about the promise she had made before the trip but she kept insisting that "she wasn’t being rude and kept bringing up her self-diagnosed mental illnesses." Having enough of this, the three of them stopped at a gas station and "when she went inside to buy more cigarettes, we sped off." The decision to leave her behind was taken after they had offered to drop her off back home but she "said she’d start breaking things if we headed back home, so we made a plan to ditch her."
They dropped the woman, who was 21 at the time, at a gas station in Florence, Arizona at around 1 pm and mentioned that it was a street with a grocery store and 2 motels. The OP then sent her $220 online so she could get a hotel and an Uber back home before blocking her. She blew up my friend's phones with threats and insults until we all blocked her and enjoyed the rest of the trip. Her Mom ended up driving to her and bringing her back home after she stayed the night at a hotel, it read. The post concluded with OP saying, The reason I might be TA is because she said if we had warned her she would be ditched if she didn’t calm down, she would have acted better. At the same time though, if extortion could have brought decency out of her then she was capable of it all along, right? AITA?
Other Reddit users had mixed reactions to this issue. User Great One Liners, who didn't think OP was in the wrong, wrote: I think it’s people who parade mental health diagnosis’s like her are usually using that as an excuse for their shitty behavior, I’ve seen this trait explicitly in young adults. Like telling everyone your mental health issues is some type of badge of honor. However, they didn't think that the friend was faking her illness. I don’t agree that people that don’t want to see mental health professionals are faking it, I know many many people who simply don’t think anything is wrong with them, continued the comment.
Another SandyDelights expressed: Yeah, I’m firmly ESH, and would lean Y-TA if it weren’t “self-diagnosed” (and even still kind of lean that way).
It’s one thing to take this kind of risk when she can get an Uber home, but this is several hundred miles away. Like, I don’t really care if it’s a “safe place”, but c’mon.
You knew she wasn’t a balanced person, you knew how she would behave, you brought her along, she did exactly what you expected to, and you ditched her in a place she knows no one and no realistic means of getting home. This is definitely a “Play stupid games, win stupid prizes” scenario, because what the hell else did OP expect to happen?