The stepfather had initially said yes to walking adopted daughter down the aisle but was in doubt after befriending her biological dad.
A father of a bride-to-be is in a dilemma now because of her biological father. The man took to Reddit to share his issues. Basically, he says that his adopted daughter had asked him to walk her down the aisle and he agreed to it. He said yes, but this was before she reconnected with her biological father. Before AD (adopted daughter) reconnected with her biological father, she had asked me to walk her down the aisle and I had said yes. He also added that because of their reconnection, he'd gotten closer to the biological father as well. The two of them had been talking and that's when the stepfather got to know a lot of things.
He explained to me that he was only a teenager when he got his girlfriend pregnant, and that when her family found out, they sent her far away to some relatives and he never saw her again. This made his heart melt, because this is something no one would want to happen to them. I felt pretty bad for him and I knew that if I were in his shoes I would want to walk my biological daughter down the aisle. He knew that it was only right for the girl's biological father to walk her down the aisle on her special day. We've been taught that blood is thicker than water, but we also know how some kids are much closer to their step-parents than they will ever be to their biological parents.
Unable to get the fact that the biological dad went through so much, he decided to take matters into his own hand. So I called AD and asked her how her and her father were getting along, and she said, "Great!" so I said, "Good because I think he should walk you down the aisle." He then believed that it was a good thing he was done with it because his daughter seemed fine about it too, at least over the phone. She seemed pretty fine on the phone, and said, something like, "I'll think about it" but my wife told me later that she called her and she was crying and very upset.
One user shared how they think the OP was in the wrong. They shared: Although you might be coming from a good place, this is her big day and it is down to her to decide who walks her up the aisle. The way you call her ‘adopted daughter’ in this post and immediately relinquish something that should be a big moment for you as her father (adopted or not), I could see how hurtful that would be to her. It seems as though you are making it clear that you still see her as your ‘adopted’ daughter and not just your daughter. Another person added: Trying to give OP the benefit of the doubt here, but I feel like he only called her his adopted daughter for the purposes of this post so that people could understand the relationship between everyone here. Maybe not, but it would be confusing if he said that his daughter's bio father should walk her down the aisle; undoubtedly everyone would ask for clarification of the relationships if he did that.