"I’m at a point where this is a hill I’m willing to die on and it may be a deal-breaker if she doesn’t agree to this."
Periods are a pain, literally, and it only gets worse when we are surrounded by people who are a pain in the rear end. A man took to Reddit to share how he's demanded that his girlfriend stops using tampons when she's on her period. I have no issue with women using tampons. I have an issue with HER using tampons. I have a few reasons for this. He then went on to list some of her issues. She sleeps with them inside, she doesn’t change them regularly enough (IMO). She will wear the same tampon all day. I think it’s a forgetfulness thing? She doesn’t take risks seriously? Idk.
He added that he's worried about her falling sick because of this. Her last period was almost a month ago and it was traumatic. Her period had ended or was very close to ending. The tampon was pushed further inside her, she couldn’t find the string, and a doctor had to remove the tampon with tweezers (I wasn’t in the doctor's room with her so not quite sure what the actual tool was to get it out, but essentially long tweezers). I feel terrible because I was involved in the tampon being pushed further inside (I’m sure you can work it out). Since it's almost time for her periods, he shared that he "pretty much demanded" that she stop using tampons.
As expected, the woman is outraged at her boyfriend's demands. She is furious with me. Says I’m being controlling. Says a man should not be demanding to women what sanitary products to use. These are all things I agree with... usually. But I’m at a point where this is a hill I’m willing to die on and it may be a deal-breaker if she doesn’t agree to this. The man then shared a couple of edits, and in one, he wrote how his girlfriend herself admitted to forgetting that she was wearing a tampon. OP also added how there have been more such instances with her and tampons.
There are more bad experiences with tampons in this relationship. Another time she forgot about a tampon and pushed it further in with another tampon. Her friend helped her that time and she didn’t see a doctor. When I say she sleeps with her tampons sometimes she’s been wearing them a long time b4 going to sleep 8 hours. I’m aware of how long a tampon can be in and the reason I’m noticing is that she is going way over. I have sisters, a mom, friends, other relationships, and their tampon habits don’t bother me one bit. I don’t even notice, but my gf's are particularly poor and that’s why I notice.
People were actually quite confused over this. They understood where this concern came from, but they didn't know what to do with the fact that he was willing to end things with her if she continued to use tampons, because essentially- her body, her choice. One user wrote: YTA. They can be worn up to eight hours at a time, and it's fine to sleep in them. Lots of women do. The tampon getting stuck in her was a onetime thing, and she went to her doctor and had it removed...but it's a her problem, not a you problem. It's her body, and she's been managing without you her entire life. You do not need to micromanage her period. Write that down and every time you get the urge to forbid her from tampons, read it, and then sit back down.