Christina Perri On Her Miscarriage: "I'm Sad But Not Ashamed"

Christina Perri On Her Miscarriage: "I'm Sad But Not Ashamed"

The couple, who have a two-year-old daughter were going to announce their pregnancy at 12 weeks.

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Christina Perri, known for her love ballads, revealed earlier this year that she had suffered a miscarriage at 11 weeks, just one week before they were set to officially announce that they were expecting a baby. The mother of one and her husband Paul Costabile were waiting to cross the first trimester before letting their fans know. Perri chose to reveal the news of the miscarriage to her fans. In a powerful, yet heartbreaking message Perri shared on social media, she explained that she "is sad but not ashamed" of what had happened, and she hoped that by sharing her story, some of the stigma that surrounds miscarrying could be changed, according to PEOPLE


She wrote: Today I had a miscarriage. [The] baby was 11 weeks old. We are shocked & completely heartbroken. We were only 1 week away from sharing the news so I feel like its also important to share this news too. I want to continue to help change the story & stigma around miscarriage, secrecy, and shame. I am so sad but not ashamed. I am ever reminded how amazing and powerful women are at making life and at healing. to all the mothers who have been here and who will be here, I see you and I love you. I am so sad but not discouraged. when the time feels right we will try again, but today, we mourn our little life lost


Perri gave birth to daughter Carmella Stanley with Costabile in January 2018. She turned two in January. After Carmella's birth, Perri had opened up about postpartum depression. “My whole entire life changed,” Perri says, reports PEOPLE. “The first nine months, the fact that I got to spend every millisecond with her meant the world to me. I know how lucky I am. A lot of women can’t do that. I did not take it for granted.” But she says once she got used to being a mother, she was ready to let her creativity flow again. “Carmella’s my favorite person to sing for. I thought, Wouldn’t it be cool if I could tiptoe back into being an artist?” says Perri.


However, she said that her life is different from what it was. “When you become a mom, the extension of you is now your child — she’s my boss now, basically,” says Perri. “It’s so different. I’m on stage in front of millions of people on TV, and I’m thinking, ‘What about her dirty diaper?’ It’s really humbling.” But it hasn't always been a bed of roses for her as she says she had to deal with post-partum depression. “That got me the hardest when I stopped breastfeeding around Christmas. I was so sad and so dark,” Perri says. “We’re almost made to pretend it’s not happening, like, ‘It’s fine. I’ve got this.’ ”


After she shared her struggles online, she was overwhelmed by the support that flowed in from other moms who had been experiencing the same as she was. “What really helped was talking about it,” she says. “It was just overwhelming. It made me feel so much better. All the women said ‘me too, me too, me too’ and really got me through it. I’ve got my mommy tribe that got bigger because of that.” Perri at the time said she was looking forward to what life had in store for them. “I got married, bought a house and had a baby the same year. Talk about blessings! That’s a dream,” she says. “All I ever wanted was a family, and that’s where I’m at now! It’s like a Disney movie.”


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