Turns Out, Children Who Grow Up With Ther Grandparents Are Less Insecure And Happier

Turns Out, Children Who Grow Up With Ther Grandparents Are Less Insecure And Happier

Having an emotionally close bond with grandparents actually reduces the risk of the children becoming depressed.

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This year, 13th September was celebrated as National Grandparent's Day. Honestly, grandparents make life so much better. Most of us share a unique bond with our grandparents, don't we? Having grandparents around while growing up just made everything seem beautiful, and as a child with working parents, I never really felt a void in my life because my grandparents were always there for me. I've always wondered how they stayed so patient and understanding all the time, even if I've created a tremendous mess, my grandparents would just laugh it off while they cleaned it. 


Maintaining a close relationship with my grandparents had its fair share of advantages. No, I am not talking about how there would always be a huge pile of my favorite food, but the fact that I got to learn a lot about life from them. Actually, there are studies to prove that there are several benefits to maintaining a close relationship with your grandparents. According to research, having an emotionally close bond with grandparents actually reduces the risk of the children becoming depressed. The study, published online in The Gerontologist, observed 356 grandchildren and 374 grandparents who were part of a larger study.


Boston College researchers analyzed the data that was accumulated over a period of 19 years. The results found that children who had a very close bond with their grandparents had a much lower risk of having depression. This has got another positive side. When grandparents spend time with their grandkids, it helps keep them occupied as well. Also, children feel a sense of stability and security when they share a special bond with their grandparents. They also have a positive impact on their grandkids' lives. This comes in handy especially during tough times, like their parents separating or issues like bullying at school.


A study by the University of Oxford found that close ties between grandparents and their grandkids helped children be better at coping with traumatic life events. The study, conducted by Professor Ann Buchanan, included more than 1,500 children. The results of the study showed that those with high-level involvement of grandparents had fewer behavioral and emotional problems. Grandmothers were responsible for nurturing their grandkids while grandfathers were responsible for mentoring, according to the study. According to Vanessa Jensen, PsyD, of Cleveland Clinic Children’s, grandparents can serve as an extension of family members who love and care for a child.


“The more people who love your child, the better,” she said. “Presumably if they’re reasonably healthy people and reasonable in their approach to how they care for your child – it never hurts to have more people who can care about an individual child or a family.” Kimberly Agresta, a licensed clinical social worker and the co-founder of Englewood’s Agresta, shared, “If parents regularly involve grandparents in their child’s life early on, a child can develop real emotional closeness to the grandparents and begin to see the grandparent as a source of strong social support. So a child will feel that they have other adults, aside from their parents, who love and care about them in the same way, and this adds to their sense of stability & security."


Parents also feel some sort of relief knowing that their kids are being taken care of by their trusted family. “There’s a sense of comfort in leaving your child with a family member who loves them and is similarly invested in raising them,” Agresta said. “It’s also nice to have the support of your own parent when you’re raising your child.”  So, there you have it. You now know there's more to spending time with your grandparents than just being fed amazing food and experiencing an awesome sense of freedom. All of this, in turn, is only a part of the process that helps you truly become happier. 


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