The woman says that her husband revealed his mistress is "living on borrowed time" and that he "doesn't want her to die alone."
The worst thing in the world is probably finding out that your spouse is cheating on you with someone else. Recently a wife and a mother took to Reddit to share how she not only learned that her husband was cheating on her but how he wanted to spend time with his mistress because she was dying. The woman started with how she's been the primary breadwinner of the house and that she's been working to support her husband and her family. This is because of his visual impairment. They've been together for 12 years and they have two kids as well. I've never minded being the breadwinner or making [do] on less. He's been an amazing father from day one and takes care of the kids so I can work.
I honestly thought we had the perfect relationship. However, about eight months ago, she noticed some things were wrong. She realized that her husband was having an affair and she just couldn't ignore it. Well, I finally broke down and confronted him and he confessed everything. But what he confessed to is something she just didn't expect. Just as I'd suspected, he'd been seeing the other woman for about a year. What I didn't expect was that she's 68 years old and has advanced cancer. Her doctors have said she's living on borrowed time. I wasn't prepared for this. I asked if he'd been sexual with her and he said yes. I'm devastated.
He says he still wants to be with me and our family and that a lot of what he talks about with his 'other woman' is me and the kids. Soon enough, things took an unexpected turn when she realized why her husband was having an affair. I was expecting that he was just being completely selfish, but he then told me that this all started because she has money and promised to put him in her will. He broke down crying and told me he's felt like such a failure because he's never been able to provide for our family the way he's wanted to, and this would be enough to pay for the kids' college.
The wife is completely devastated now, especially after knowing why her husband did this. I honestly still love him and don't want to break up the kids home. I'm willing to go to counselling, but I can't deal with him seeing her again. He said they haven't been sexual in a long time since she was placed in palliative care, but he doesn't want to abandon her now because she has no one else in her life (her only son died in a car accident 18 years ago) and he doesn't want her to die alone. Is this relationship worth saving? Should I put my feelings on the back burner until his mistress passes so he doesn't resent me for it?
Redditors had a lot to say about the affair. One user wrote: He needs to cut her off and commit to you and the family. Otherwise, he's saying it is fine to lie and skip off every week. She's alone because she's the kind of person that knowingly seduces/manipulates married people. She could have formed this weird relationship with a single person. She wants her last months on earth spent helping him cheat. What kind of person wants their last relationship to ruin the others in someone's life? Obviously she isn't a good person. He needs to decide if he wants to spent time with someone that is manipulative that helped him lie every week to you or with his family.
Another shared: I feel like that is such a bullshit excuse. I can’t be the breadwinner so I’m going to completely destroy my wife’s self-esteem and trust by having an affair with a dying woman hoping she’ll leave me her money....I did it for the kids. I’d drop his ass off at her house and start divorce proceedings. He’s more worried about this woman dying alone and getting her money than he is about destroying his family. A third added: Counseling can be a great tool to help couples navigate difficult situations, but this is just a whole other level. I wouldn't want to waste time with a counselor either.